HELP!! I have a great guy but I tired of waiting

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: what should I do?
    wait one more year : (1 votes)
    7 %
    dont waste any time and find someone who is ready : (0 votes)
    Have the "talk" straight talk is necessary : (12 votes)
    80 %
    Wait 3 more months -until our 3rd year anniversary : (2 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
    3009 posts
    Sugar bee

    @anonymous007:  some couples wait 8 or 10 years and some do it all in 1 year. There’s no right answer. While I really like your laid back approach to this, I think you can have a conversation to see what page he is on without pressuring him. Just find out if he is even thinking about marriage, what his goals are and what hesitations he may have. This is your life and it is only fair if you have a clue as to where it is going. 

    Post # 4
    4879 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I think it’s time to sit down & have a direct conversation with him about your futures & timelines.  It sounds as if, thus far, you have been indirect & hoping he’d pick up the ball & run with it.

    After you have had a real discussion, you can make a decision about whether to stay in the relationship.

    Post # 5
    379 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @anonymous007:  I was with my ex for 5+ years and i thought he was the one and never poped the question. He’s 8 months younger then me.

    Now the person I’m with which is my FI he’s 4 years older then me. I was with him for almost a year and a half. A month short of being a 1 1/2 and he poped the question.



    So it all depends when they are ready.

    I wish you the best of luck tho!

    Post # 6
    2457 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @anonymous007:  I really dont want to pressure him because I will always wonder “did he really wanted to marry me?!?!?”

    You asking about marriage or hinting at marriage, or even outright telling him when you want to get married… is something you SHOULD do. you need to be on the same page. if you don’t communicate about it because you are afraid of pressuring him, then you will never know how the other person feels or if the other person feels ready.

    Imagine if a guy wanting to propose thought alone the same line as that. “I really want to marry her… but I’m afraid that if I do this whole big proposal, that she’ll only say yes because I pressured her into it.” Why is it okay for a guy to propose, but not okay for you to talk about it?

    So… have a talk. Let him know when you’d ideally like to be married by. Don’t set a walk date or anything, but make sure he knows what life stage you are at and where you are ready to go to.

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