Help… I need a bridezilla diagnosis!!

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
Member
145 posts
Blushing bee

In this case, for the sake of including your FI’s family and friends, yes you have to say no. 

You’re not being a bridezilla at all and your mom and MOH should understand that you are trying to allow your other part of the family to be included.  Ask them to put themselves in your FI’s shoes… would they be happy if the bridal shower they were obligated to attend was an hour or more away and on a Saturday night?  Probably not… they’d be the ones telling you to change it.

So tell them that for this portion of the planning only, you want it on this date, at this time for the sake of your FI’s family and friends being included.  It’s only fair.

Post # 3
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1478 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I’m not sure why that time would be less likely to accomodate everyone.  Do you have a lot of family with young kids?  That would be the only thing I could see as a potential challenge (depending on if they’re invited or not).

Yes, that would be late if someone doesn’t leave until 10pm, but if you start at 5pm, I think the older crowd would just leave around 8pm or 9pm.  At the showers I’ve been to, people leave whenever they’d like to, after the gifts have been opened and the food has been eaten.

Post # 4
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744 posts
Busy bee

jennifer20100:  Looking out for the comfort and safety of your guests/future in-laws absolutely does not make you a bridezilla!  I think your MOH and mom are being a little selfish in disregarding them despite you expressing your concerns.  I’d probably more firmly, but gently tell them it needs to be earlier in the day.

Also, 4 hours is a long bridal shower.  All the showers I’ve been to hit their natural end at about 3 hours even when an end time is not specified.  Would 5-8pm be too late for your future in laws?

Post # 5
Hostess
9908 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

jennifer20100:  I would say you’re not being a bridezilla.  Make sure that they know how much you appreciate what they’re planning but you tink it would be better at 1pm (or soemthign like that), it would mean a lot to you if your FILs could make it and so on…

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