Post # 1
Okay Bees, I need some help! I’m planning a boudoir photoshoot as a wedding gift for my fiance (okay, and a little bit because I think it’ll be fun to do!). It’s going to be a surprise. Here’s why it gets complicated:
My fiance and I live 3 hours apart. He lives in a SMALL town (the kind without traffic lights where everybody knows everybody else) and this is also where my photographer is. I have the weekend off, so I’m going to spend it with my fiance and I also have the photo session planned. It’s at 5pm in the evening on Saturday and I can’t figure out how to make an excuse to disappear for about 2 hours without making my fiance suspicious!
Unfortunately, I don’t really have any of my own friends in the town where he lives, so I can’t use anyone as an alibi. I kind of just started getting friendly with the girlfriend of one of his friends, but I didn’t want to drag her into it, because I don’t want to tell her what I’m doing. I don’t yet know he well enough to trust her with a secret, but asking her if I could tell me fiance that we’re going out for a drink was one of my ideas for an alibit.
My other idea was just telling my fiance that I’m meeting with the photographer and telling him “it’s ok babe, you don’t need to come with me”, to which I know he wont object! But then how do I explain having my hair and makeup done??
Anyone else have any other suggestions? Unfortunately I can’t schedule the session for another time. I don’t always have time off from work and the photographer also has a busy schedule. If I don’t meet with her this weekend, I don’t know when else I might be able to, or IF I will be able to in enough time before the wedding.
What else could I use as a believable alibi??!
Post # 3
Trial hair and make up and meeting the photographer to discuss some photos…plus! This is how I’m going to wear my hair so you guys can brainstorm some poses.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t bother coming up with a lie or excuse that might make him suspicious – why not just tell him that it’s a surprise for him, and he’ll find out what you were up to on the wedding day?
Post # 5
@Hippos: Unfortunately I can’t say it’s a hair and makeup trial because those stylists are from a different town all together, and I actually have my trials there the day before!
@Wonderstruck: I’ve considered that too… but because it’s such a small town and there would only be some many places for me to go/things for me to do, I’m afraid it would be too easy for him to figure it out… but yes, if I need to I’ll just tell him “don’t ask any questions, you’ll find out soon enough” 😉
Post # 6
Even if he suspects you may be running off to do boudoir photography, he won’t know that you are, so it will still be a nice surprise.
There are so many threads where the guy seems to be doing something suspicious, and the bee gets all panicked and upset, then it turns out that he was just planning a nice surprise. Don’t give an alibi, there’s too much potential for chaos with lies, even if they’re told with good intentions!
Post # 7
I’d just say, it’s partially a surprise, partially a girl thing and give him an enigmatic little smile.
Post # 8
Say you’re doing your make up trial and meeting with photographer… say something about makeup and lighting for pictures. making sure it all works together… lol a man wouldnt question something like that.
Post # 9
@HappinessIsInDaisies: Yeah, now I’m leaning toward doing my makeup and just telling him “oh, the photographer took a few pictures because she knew I was worried about how my makeup would look in photos”
The problem is I already dug myself a hole in that he knows I’m meeting with my photographer on Saturday at 5… me and my excitement and my big mouth. We are also legitimately meeting to discuss wedding day logistics. At least I know that he is happy to stay home if I don’t INSIST that he be there 😉
It probably would have been easier to just tell him it’s a surprise, instead of coming up with little white lies. I’ll just have to tell him I’m going to meet with the photographer and that we are experimenting with makeup and lighting. It’s all true, really! I’m not concerned that he’ll think it’s suspicious in a “bad” way because he knows me better than that… hopefully he wont ask too many questions. He can only handle so much wedding talk at once 😉
The biggest problem is if he just drives over to the studio to look for me because I’m running over into dinner time 😉 At least we wont be at the studio, but I’ll still have some ‘splaining to do!
Post # 10
I think you should combine your ideas – tell him that it’s a meeting with the photographer first, then after that you are working on something that’s a surprise for him. That way he doesn’t get suspicious if it takes a long time. I love NatashaLH’s idea about makeup and lighting for pictures! Gives you an excuse to be all dolled up. You could also say that this is how you’re considering wearing your hair and makeup for the rehearsal dinner, and want to see how it will turn out for pictures.
I agree with you on not bringing the friend into it…she might feel like she’s obligated to tell your FI or FI’s friend if she thinks you’re up to something. Good luck!
Post # 11
Just tell him you are meeting the photographer. Then on your way home get changed into some sexy lingerie and a trench coat and suprise him.
He wont notice the make up and hair and if he does he will think you have done it for him (which in essence is true).
Post # 12
In case anyone was curious 😉 I had my meeting and boudoir photo session on Saturday with my photographer. I just told my fiance that I was going to meet the photographer to go over details (which was true!) but left out any other particulars. Luckily, He didn’t ask any questions. Then when I got there, the photographer had a local woman there to help out with the session. Turns out she was the daughter of a friend of my fiance. The friend being quite a bit older so the daughter is rather close in age to me, but my fiance knows her well through her dad. Anyway, since I left my phone at home (I never do that!) the friend’s daughter texted my fiance and said “hey, I ran into your fiance and we’re going to spend some time together” to buy me the extra time it took to do the photo shoot. This just turned out to be convenient and a good way to keep my fiance from asking questions. So either a) he KNOWS, but doesn’t want to upset me by letting me know he figured it out or b) he’s clueless about what I was up to and he’ll be completely surprised!
Also, the photo session was a TON of fun! I can’t wait to see how the pictures turned out. I definitely understand why America’s Next Top Models have such a tough time! 😉