- 3 years ago
I need some advice ladies…
I’ll try to sum up my situation…My husband and I got married in April of last year. Since then we’ve been living with his parents and trying to save money for a house. I’m part time status and having been looking for full time work…so, we have 1 1/2 income right now. We’re on a tight budget and have cut out all unnessessary spending- even date nights! We’ve been working really hard on saving (for a 20% down payment) and plan to get a home around April-June this year.
We do have another big event in the family this year. My husband’s sister is getting married in May and they are having a destination wedding. They are having 20 ppl in their wedding party 10g/10b. I am a bridesmaid and my husband is a groomsman.
As joyous as this event is, it is becoming quite costly. The amount of money that we are expecting to spend for the wedding is about $2,000…hair, makeup, b.m dress, tux, airplane tickets (AZ to HI), hotel, food, car rental etc.
We just got an invite to the bachelorette/bachelor party…in Vegas…and it’s on mine and my husband’s first anniversary:(.
***WHAT SHOULD WE DO?:)***
My husband and I are torn…we would love to go but…two major factors…cost and anniversary.
We would have loved to get away (local) and do something really special to celebrate our anniversary. Our anniversary date lands on the day when we would be checking out of the hotel and traveling back to AZ.
Another factor is cost…going to Vegas for that weekend…we would spend $500-700 (hotel, food, drinks, gas, casinos, etc)
***On one hand I feel that this is an important event…esp.since my husband is her brother…BUT on the other hand…we are going to the wedding which is already costing us a lot of money. And part of me feels like spending that additional money in Vegas would be irresponsible and could be used to absolute neccessities in our lives…
-saving for down payment
-furniture/household items (because we’ve never lived together & we are just starting out:)
I think my husband is leaning toward going to Vegas. We talked about this dilema before and we come to a standstill. We both feel torn but i think he’s leaning one way and i’m leaning the other.
***I don’t know what the right decision is…Please help! Any advice is appreciated:)