(Closed) HELP! I need to give FSIL a big job…quick!

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

do you mean a role for the shower or for the wedding. if it’s for the wedding can she do a reading? 

Post # 6
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1115 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I guess I’m confused.  Why does she need a job if she’s a bridesmaid?

Also, you shouldn’t have to worry about your own shower.  This is your FMIL’s problem.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

if your FMIL’s sisters are the ones hosting a shower and are the ones that told your FSIL that she would be co-host she needs to talk to them and NOT yell at you….

She’s 17…when I was 17 I had graduated high school and was working full time….she is not a child and needs to act more maturely about this situation….you are not throwing your own shower, so if she has issues she needs to discuss it with whomever is hosting….

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

OP, do you have any small DIY projects?  Maybe she can complete it for you.  It would be plenty of glory for her when she sees it at the wedding.  Plus, a little less stress for you!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think it’s sweet and wonderful that you want to make your FSIL feel included. I think we’re just so used to hearing stories of bridesmaid and family drama that we’re having a hard time realizing you’re just wanting to be a good sister, instead of trying to reduce drama. 

Could she maybe be in charge of planning a ladies lunch or spa date of some kind? Have her send out some e-invitations and call to make reservations and then someone else could help pay? Or she could be in charge of planning something fun, like a girls rollerskating night or bowling or whatever. 

Post # 12
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156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Oops, one more thought!

Is she in to make-up or any of that? She could be your beauty/fashion guru. It will give her an excuse to look at clothes and make-up videos online. 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@little_cricket:  Glad I could help! Your FSIL sounds an awful like my SIL. Let me know when she starts picking out your honeymoon outfits and casually mentioning adorable and glamorus baby outfits she found on Pinterest. 

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