- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
I feel so sad when I have to tell people about what’s going on in my life. I feel so ashamed too because I want to have this great relationship with my new family but canâ€™t. My FiancÃ© (then boyfriend) started dating back in 2006. When I first met his family, we all got along. They loved me and accepted me and everything was normal. Just two years ago, my FiancÃ©â€™s younger brother started dating this girl, for about 3 weeks, and married her! (I come from a culture/religious background) He was only 17 then and his wife was only 16. I was really upset because at that age, no one really knows who they are going to spend the rest of their lives with. They didnâ€™t even have a wedding or anything. She ran away from home and then her parents called my FFIL/FMIL and said â€œIf your son doesnâ€™t marry my daughter, Iâ€™m calling the police.â€ And thatâ€™s why they got married. I hate my FBILâ€™s wife because sheâ€™s so money hungry. They are now over age, still live under my FMIL and feed off of her. They donâ€™t cook for themselves, they donâ€™t work and THEY BOTH dropped out of high school! They just sit at home all day, drive around town (with NO license) and spend my FMILâ€™s money like it grows on trees! The BILâ€™s wife and I hate each other because when she first came into the family, she just started hating me! And she crossed the line, because she was already with one of the other brothers before she married the younger one and then to top it all off, she came onto my FiancÃ© too! I hate her because sheâ€™s so lazy, she doesnâ€™t even know how to fry eggs or cook instant noodles go godâ€™s sake!! Sheâ€™s always talks about being a â€œGoGo dancerâ€ and all the boys she was with before she got married. She also drove everyone mad in the family, so they all moved out. Every time she sees me, itâ€™s like competition or something and she trys to get into my face and put on a show like sheâ€™s better than me. My FiancÃ© could care less because he honestly hates her too but just doesnâ€™t want to waste his time on people like that. I canâ€™t stand her at all, and when my FiancÃ© and I got engaged, we called everyone to tell them. When we went over to dinner, and I was showing my ring off, she came over and was telling me how she wished she got one too and how my FiancÃ© should buy her one because his brother doesnâ€™t have enough money to buy her one. Iâ€™m thinking, are you freaken crazy! Get the hell away from me you gold digger! Work hard and maybe youâ€™ll get one!!!
Then just a few months ago, the BILâ€™s wife told my FMIL that I was a bad person and a lot of other nasty/mean things. My FMILâ€™s perception of me changed. She stopped talking to me altogether and she makes little snarky comments at me all the time.. My FiancÃ©â€™s sister told me that she was upset with me because I had this feud with the younger brother and his wife. Everyone in the family babys them because they are the youngest. Ugh, and when someone goes against them or doesnâ€™t let them step all over them, the sister and everyone gets mad!!
Iâ€™m so confused and angry all the time! I started avoiding everyone in his family and they are starting to get the point. They ask my FiancÃ©, where I am all the time because I donâ€™t show up anymore to their family dinners, parties..
Please help me out bees because I need to get this fixed before I marry my FiancÃ©.