Post # 1
I searched long and hard for my dress with no pressure from the peanut gallery. I was open to different styles, then I honed in on what I really loved. Every dress underwhelmed me. I easily tried on 80 dresses.
I just bought a dress, a Pronovias Corona, and now I am not in love with it. There are some alterations that without seeing the final outcome, I really won’t know if it will look right. The alterations are a little complicated: the fabric on the bodice was sewn in a little wavy which adds bulk to my waist and it is an aline top so all you see is waist; I am petite but it’s the look of it. Why did I buy it? I did think that it was the one, and um, it was marked down four times. Way down.
I can resell it. that’s not the issue. It’s starting over again and avoiding this happening again. I’m lost in a sea of dresses and so confused!
Post # 3
@pinwheels- I couldn’t find a picture of your dress on the internet. Do you have a pic you can share? Even better, is there one of you in it?
You said that at the time you purchased it that you did think it was the one… Are you sure this isn’t the usual post-purchase anxiety? I think a lot of us go through that.
Are you going to have an opportunity to try it on again with some of the basic alterations soon? What do your trusted friends and family think?
I was like you and went through 80+ dresses. At a certain point I had to realize that the way I feel about dresses might just be different than what I had imagined it would be like. Does that make sense? I might not have explained it very well.
Anyway, those are my thoughts for now.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
I don’t know if this will help, but here is my two cents.
If you don’t love the dress, start over. But this time, try to focus your search. Think back to the 80 dresses you tried on before and try to remember which ones you loved and what it was specifically that you loved about each dress. Then, when you go to try on dresses again, you will have something very clear in your mind that you can share with the bridal shop so they can help you find "the one."
Try not to be swayed by sale prices. Sometimes getting a good deal makes a dress (or anything, for that matter) seem cuter/better/more useful than it would if it was full price. Obviously, try to stay in your budget, but don’t let the fact that a dress is marked way down talk you into buying it unless you are sure it’s the one.
If you’re not happy with the dress you bought now, you won’t be on your wedding day. Do yourself a favor and continue trying to find the dress of your dreams. Good luck!
Post # 5
Thank you both.
@doctorgirl: I’m superstitious about posting a photo of me in a dress. I also thought that perhaps posting the dress may sway opinions – people loving it -not loving it. I did post it on the 6th page of the "show us your dress" post. I may be going through some post purchasing anxiety but it’s been over a week. I sent a photo to one of my BMs who is also a big event/wedding planner and she said "I love it. I love all of the dresses you have chosen. But I don’t like the look on your face – you should be beaming and you are not" I remember the moment they snapped the photo and she is right – I was not beaming. There’s a photo of me on my blog in a ML dress that was a little over my budget and you can tell I am crazy in love with it.
@ Indie B: That’s a great plan. I’m always afraid of not giving a dress "a chance" bc it looks different on a hangar. I know I shouldn’t have let the red tag sway me. I knew it. Ugh.
There’s a dress that "got away" – it’s the Monique Lhuillier style elle (Fall 2007). Tried it on a sample sale and chickened out (slightly over my budget too but it was a 2 so no alterations) I’ve been searching for it ever since and have found a few preowned and still way over my budget. I love the Bloom too. I should have trusted my instinct that this is the type of dress that I should be looking for.
Post # 6
@pinwheels- I do love the dress that you bought. (I think I’m partial to the flouncy skirt!) But, the things I’m hearing you say now make me concerned that you may be happier with a different dress.
My purchase anxiety lasted 3 weeks, but I don’t think it was as strong as yours…
There are some Elles on pre-owned wedding dresses dot com. I love the back of the Elle! It’s beautiful. As for the front, I’d have to see it on you, but that straight across the middle line that cuts through the middle at the waist and the hips doesn’t look good on me, so I tend to bias against that kind of style (but I think you are tinier than me–I’m more like a size 6). I’m assuming you rocked it if you tried it on and loved it, but it is something to think about.
It’s not like you are out a ton of money if you end up going with a different dress, and in fact given the price I bet you could sell it for what you got it for.
Now I’m going to say something you may not want to hear (and nobody told me, but they should have)… Is there a dress out there somewhere that combines elements of both of these dresses that you would be stoked with?
Maybe you just haven’t found the one, and have been trying to make close enough work because you are tired of looking? I’m going to see if I can think of some dresses that combine the elements of both. I’ll post if I do.
Post # 7
doctorgirl: you are the best! I did a lot of thinking and searching – instead looking though photos of me trying on different dresses. I’m 5’3, a size zero but I have a shape – i have hips. Dresses that have natural waists or anything happening around the hips is bad. Rouching/gathering to one side -bad. The dress has to be form fitting through the waist – usually below it.
Okay I am breaking my rule because I haven’t bought another dress and you are so darn helpful (lifesaver!) Here’s me in the ML style elle and after hours of searching I found out where this dress that I thought was too simple (wrong) but always think about (too expensive) is: ML 2006 Spring style Renee
Btw, I found a really cool web site that sifts through classified ads (craigslist, facebook, myspace, local papers – UNREAL). I found the ML Swan Lake for $1200. That’s a condendor although I’ve never tried it’s absolutely gorgeous and has what I need.
Yes I think that you are right – the dress I bought had a lot of things I was looking for so I caved 🙁 Bad bride!
Look at me in that ML Renee (third photo) – I am SO happy!
Post # 8
Is this your Pronovias? If it is, its STUNNING!
But if you don’t love it, don’t keep it. Get what makes you happy.
What’s the classified search engine by the way? I’d love to check it out.
Post # 9
oops! now it’s the first photo (you have to click on it) sorry!
Post # 10
You can def. see the difference in your expression. My $.02 is that you should BEAM in your dress, so go for the one that makes you smile the biggest! I bet if you search enough you’ll find one in your price range or maybe just a tad bit higher. Good luck with your search!
Post # 11
MrsLeopard: yeah, that’s it. It’s a pretty dress. Btw, I LOVED yours.
Here’s what you do:
go to http://www.lycos.com
Then Classifieds, choose your city (or any city) and then type what you are looking for. MySpace classifieds, FB, local papers, craziness!
Post # 12
Hi Pinwheels! I love the dress you chose, and I’m sorry you’re feeling anxious about it!
Have you checked out Priscilla of Boston gowns? I know they’ve had several styles in the past few seasons with lace and a dropped waist like you discussed (I know of at least one because it was the first dress I bought before I found the one for me).
I’d say that if you don’t love the Pronovias gown, no matter what anyone else thinks, you should try to sell it before having any alterations done. When is your wedding? Do you still have time to start over in your search?
I’m sure that you can find a dress that makes you as happy as you look in that picture you posted, if not the dress itself. If any place can help you find the dress for you, I’m sure the Hive can!
Post # 13
@driftslikesmoke: I know it; I don’t know what I would do w.out the hive!
I think I’ve been pushing so hard to find a designer dress that what I should have been doing is find moderately priced designers that have the same look. I’m looking at Watters, Paloma Blanca, and Alfred Angelo— I did look at POB; the dresses were super heavy and too busy for me. I did like a few Melissa Sweet’s though but didn’t find the dress.
Can someone tell me if Alfred Angelo is like a David’s Bridal? DB has some great looking dresses but the material was pretty corse. Is AA the same?
Also, if anyone sees that Monique Lhuillier dress I am wearing in the first photo – it’s the 2006 style Renee and it’s nearly impossible to find. I’m still so stuck on it.
Post # 14
I think AA has significantly better quality dresses than Davids Bridal (the material was more flattering…less stiff)
I feel your pain, I bought my dress somewhat early on and go through periods where I wonder if I shouldn’t have waited. Some of the Maggie Sottero dresses are stunning! But recently I tried my dress on again for a bustle alteration, and was very happy with it again…so I try to remember that feeling. If you don’t feel happy with it though, seek out what you like…its stressful enough without being unhappy with your dress.
Post # 15
thank you all for helping me through the dress drama! I found THE DRESS and I could not be happier. No regrets, no "if I fix or add this then it will be great". It’s perfect and I love it! It’s the Watters 1079B
This dress doesn’t do much for me on the site, but in person it is stunning:
Now I’m just trying to figure out whether to buy it at the store where I found it at $1300 or buy from netbride.com for $840. Major difference but I’m afraid of another mess up.
Did anyone buy their dress through netbride.com or online?
Post # 16
Oh, I’m so excited for you… It’s a gorgeous elegant dress that will suit you perfectly!
Doesn’t it feel so good to know you are getting something you love? I nearly shed a tear when I realized I had to go back to the drawing board… but I was oh so glad that I did.
In the end it took an extra couple of weeks and some additional sweat equity… but now I have peace of mind.
Really, I’m thrilled that you’ve found what you love!