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Both dresses are beautiful. The Jim Hjelm dress is really pretty but the one you are wearing looks GREAT on you! Both are very different. I wish you had a pic of you in the Jim dress
But if you are thinking about it that much, then it mUST be meant to be :)
I think you look absolutely gorgeous in the Marisa dress! I tried on another dress that I liked but I stayed with my original. I think what you are feeling is normal. You look superb :) Great choice.
Do you have it in your budget to switch or do one as a reception dress?
I tried on that SAME Marisa gown (you're at Mary Linn's in Pasadena right?)! I really really thought it was pretty... but out of my price point. I think you're a lucky girl who looks GREAT in the Marisa-- I say keep it! 
The dress you are wearing looks amazing on you! There may be many reasons why you are doubting yourself, and we can all try to talk you into the dress you already bought, but ultimately you have to be happy with the dress you wear on your wedding day. The first thing you need to do is figure out if you can afford to switch dresses. Most likely the store where you bought your dress will NOT charge a restocking fee. At mos places, once you order the dress it is YOURS and you will be responsible for the total cost of the dress. You can always try selling the first dress, but you will not be able to do it for the price you paid. Try calling the store where you bought the dress. If they sell the second dress they may be able to work something out with you. Good luck!
I love the Marisa dress! i think it really suits you, and it's also just my personal preference. My preference doesn't really matter though as I agree with the other girls that what matters most is that YOU love your dress.
I you love the Jim dress more, go for it. However, I think the Marisa is more classic and timeless and the Jim dress might 'date' a little when you look back at pics. This is a pretty minor point though.
I am really indecisive so know how you feel. Take pictures of yourself in the Jim dress then compare. Would you ask your FI which one he prefers?
They are both beautiful dresses but I like the dress you already have more. You look stunning it in. I like its more classic styling, while it is still very modern and romantic.
Before you get carried away ask some questions and crunch the numbers and find out if you can even afford to change your mind.
It's also important to acknowledge to yourself that it's alright if you love two (or more) dresses. Dresses are not like husbands. You are allowed to love more than one! Just because you love the Jim Hjelm dress does not mean that the Marisa dress is not also "yours" and that you cannot also love it! But probably for the sake of your wallet you will have to choose one. I hope you figure out the right dress solution for you. Either way, you're going to look fabulous.
I definitely prefer the dress you are wearing, though to be fair, I'm not really into "modern" type things. Not to offend you or anyone else, the little circles on the Jim Hjlem remind of of the suckers on an octopus's tentacles... :x You look great in the Marissa :)
After seeing your pictures, I am going to search for YOUR dress to try on! I absolutely love your Marisa dress... and Jim Hjelm is one of my favorite designers! Gorgeous.. don't have any regrets.
I think you look gorgeous in the first dress. It's lovely and elegant. However, I also love the second dress. For me, it has the WOW factor.
I would stick with your original. It is absolutely stunning on you!!!
you look amazing in that dress. such a great figure. i just saw your dress on oncewed.com. are you going with the Jim Hjelm?
Thanks everyone!! I am going to the bridal salon tomorrow to try both my dress and the Jim Hjelm to make sure I have no regrets. I listed my Marisa dress for sale just in case I decide to go with the Jim Hjelm and the store won't let me exchange it...i guess we'll find out tomorrow!!!
what kind of venue are you having?
your marisa dress is very classy and elegant while the jim hjelm one is more dainty and cute.
but i really think you look GREAT in your marisa :)
I love the first one better. The Jim Hljm dress is pretty but in pictures I think it would not hold up well over the years.
I Love Your original Dress! I guess it's hard without seeing you in the JH dress. What type of wedding are you having? I think the JH looks like more of a casual fun wedding and your originals looks Classic and elegant! I think you Look great & should stick with your First Choice!!!
I'm with the majority of the posters here, you look so beautiful in the gown you bought. I think you should totally stick with it!
Listen, I think we've all been through this. It's hard to pick a dress and then see other dresses that are fabulous that we didn't buy. I love my dress, but there were definitely times where I wavered and thought about getting something else, but once I stopped obsessing over it, the urge to get a different dress passed and I was relieved that I stuck with mine. My honest opinion is that I like the Marisa dress better. You have the perfect figure to rock that dress. The Jim Hjelm is also beautiful, but I think the Marisa is more classic and sophisticated.
I think the second one is lovely and fun, but I think the first is timeless and elegant. At the end of the day, you have to wear what YOU want and not let your aunt, or anyone else's opinion sway you (which is super hard - I had a much easier go of dress shopping once I left all the opinionated people at home!)
I think the Marrisa is a better choice because it hugs your body very nicely. The JH dress will not accentuate your lovely figure. Just my opinion. I think your tiny body will be lost in the JM.
I love your dress. It's timeless, classic and elegant.
The JH dress is beautiful but I think it is very trendy and will probably look dated in a couple of years!
Just a thought - I'm not sure you still have time to order the Jim Hjelm. Mine took almost 5 months to come in. So maybe this means the Marisa is just meant to be. And I totally agree with chelseamorning - you can love many dresses, but you still have to choose just one. And I do like the Marisa dress on you (and this is coming from someone who bought the JH 8962!).
Ok everyone, I went back to the bridal salon today and tried on both dresses and decided....to keep MY dress!! I LOVE it so much more than the other dress, although that was one gorgeous too. I feel sooooooo much better and now I truly will have no regrets :) Thank you bees for the kind words and support and reassurance- you're the best!!!
So glad to hear you are sticking with your dress! It really is gorgeous and looks like it was made for you. Isn't it such a weight lifted to have your dress decision made and not to stress about it anymore? :)
i feel your pain.....i've been feeling the same way. i love the dress you are wearing...and the other fluffy one just seems like its too much. I agree you may get lost in it.
My dress is beautiful but wonder if it's for me....
Good luck girl i dont think you should go through the stress of trying to get another dress.
I really love your first dress and you have the figure to pull it off...I would stick with your first one...the Jim Hjelm is pretty...but it may be a little too much.
You look amazing in your dress, I would stay with the dress you have but it's most important that you feel like a beautiful bride. Congrats!
I think both gowns are great on you... I prefer the second one because I think that the neckline on the first dress looks weird on you (you are very well proportioned whereas that dress is cut for people with a short torso).
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Hello bees,
I think I may just be going crazy. My wedding is in 3 months and now I am not sure I made the right decision with my dress. The dress I bought is a Marisa 839 and gorgeous, but I think I may love another dress more. Let me take you back to the begining. Originally, I had thought the Marisa dress was MY dress, that is until I tried on the Jim Hjelm style 8962 dress. I was pretty set on getting the jim hjelm dress and I brought my aunt with me. As soon as I came out, she made a funny face and shook her head. She didn't think it was elegant enough and thought I should have a more sophisticated look. So I went with her suggestion and showed her the Marisa dress and she loved that dress and said it was perfect. She thought the Marisa dress showed off more of my curves and was classic and elegant, while the Jim Hjelm dress she thought was almost childish and "young". So I bought the Marisa dress. Don't get me wrong, at the time, I did love it and I thought I was making the right decision in going for a more classic, sophisticated look.
Then, 2 months later, I see the Jim Hjelm dress in a store window as I was driving by and I slowed down and stared at it to the point that the car behind me honked. Even at that time, I quickly dismissed my thought and reassured myself that the dress I bought was more beautiful. Then, last month, as I was browsing one of my fave websites, Style Me Pretty, I came across a wedding where the bride had the Jim Hlejm dress and that's when I couldn't deny it anymore and started to panic. I think I picked the wrong dress!!
So...what dress should I go with?? I'm completely torn. A part of me thinks that if my aunt hadn't disapproved, I would have bought the Jim Hjelm dress. But a part of me also likes the classic, elegant look and understands what my aunt means.
What dress do you think I should go with? And if I do decide to get the other dress, what is the best way I should go about it? I'm not sure if the bridal salon will let me do an exchange; however, they may be willing to negotiate since I haven't even picked up my dress yet and it hasn't been touched. I am even willing to pay a restocking fee....
Sorry for the long post!! Any advice would be greatly appreciated :)
My dress vs the Jim Hjelm dress:
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