Post # 1
So, this is my first child and my first experience with daycare and so far, it’s NOT at all what I was expecting.
My son is just shy of 4 months old and has only been in daycare for under two weeks. Every day when I pick him up, his clothes are wet and stained and his hair appears to be wet, yet it is dry and crunchy and gummed up with gook. His right side of his face and ear has dried, caked on formula. There is nothing ever said to me when I pick him up like, “Oh, he got a little messy” or anything of that nature. He is NEVER changed despite my leaving FOUR outfits along with burp cloths and bibs.
She has two other children that I know of under the age of two. When I picked my son up today earlier than normal, I saw how many kids were there and I was a bit alarmed as there were about 8-9 other kids; most of which were in the 3-5 yr old range and a few older kids around 6-7 years old. I am beginning to think that she is propping his bottle because she is so overwhelmed with kids during the day. There is no other explanation for this that bottle propping because I have NEVER fed my son and had him be such a mess…..even at his messiest feeding!
I am actively looking for another provider, but I am SICK every morning dropping him off every day as we have no other options. It scares me that this is a reality and he could very easily choke!
Post # 3
I would find another daycare provider…
Post # 4
@MusicBee76: that sounds like a potentially dangerous and neglectful place for your newborn to be in, and I don’t think it’s worth the risk of leaving him there anymore. Is there no one else that can supervise him while you make new arrangements? I wouldn’t feel okay leaving my child with this woman. That’s too many children for one person to properly take care of, especially with a baby involved.
Post # 5
Have you confronted her about this? I would honestly be in her face and telling her if I ever pick my child up in that state again she will not only loose me as a customer but I would be reporting her as I feel the well being of the children there is at risk. I wouldn’t accept picking my dog up covered in food and other crap let alone my child.
Post # 6
@MusicBee76: That does NOT sound normal. Every daycare I’ve been to has been really clean and my son generally came home cleaner than he left lol. And If there was a mess they would tell me right away and usually send him in a change of clothes (if they had one.)
Also there are laws about how many kids they can watch at once and how many of each age group so I might look into that for your area.
Find a better daycare.
Post # 7
This is why I’m not a fan of in-home daycares. As you said, the provider can easily get overwhelmed and unlike a regular daycare, there’s no one around to make sure they’re doing what they’re supposed to do. What’s the regulation for a home-daycare in your area? Is the 1 to 9 ratio even legal?
I’ve worked as a nanny and currently work at a daycare, I can’t imagine ever sending a kid home like that. Even if they were out of clean clothes, the daycare always has daycare clothes we can put the kids in. It sounds a lot like she is propping up the bottle, so scarey!
Post # 8
@MusicBee76: in my state, the maximum amount of kids per child care provider is 5. So depending on your state laws, she could be breaking the law and needs to be reported to social services. That said, you need to find a new provider immediately.
Post # 9
I agree, this is not good. I believe the ratio in my state is 4 kids that are not your own to 1 adult for a home day care.
I am babysitting my niece and nephew and I would never leave them like that when my sister came home. Even if they weren’t my own, I would never hand someone’s elses baby to them all messy and gross, especially when you leave the provider additional outfits.
I’m sorry you’re going through this.
Post # 10
Waaaay too many children for one person to care for.
Are you sure she is Licensed ?
Lots of people operate / advertise Daycare / Childcare Services when they are not.
Here in Canada we have Laws about such things, there is a maximum that each Provider can accommodate.
Here is the info for example for the Province of Ontario (I’d be researching info for your own Jurisdiction)
The Ontario Day Nurseries Act requires that there cannot be more than 5 Children under the age of 6 Present at one time in a Home Daycare situation (no matter how many Adults present).
And the following number of children in each of the following classifications cannot be exceeded at any one time:
- Two Children with Special Needs
- Two Children, who are under 2 Years of age
- Three Children, who are under 3 Years of age
- One Child with Special Needs, and One Child who is under 2 Years of age
- One Child with Special Needs, and Two Children who are over 2 Years of age, but under 3 Years of age
Where the Childeren of the Provider are under the age of 6 Years, they must be counted in the allowable age mix of Children listed above; however, the Provider may still have Five Child Care Children in addition to her own by caring for some School Age Children (6 to 10 Years of age)
For example, a Provider who has 3 Children of her own under 5 Years Old, may in addition, provide care for five child care children, if at least 3 of these children are over the age of six.
Above info appears on Page 28
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If she isn’t licensed, or the numbers don’t add up…
Honestly, I’d not be dropping him off there again, I’d take a day off and make 100 phone calls before I’d be taking him back.
Post # 11
Poor little bubba. That woman definitely sounds like she is doing something dodgy. I’ve been looking into home daycare as I am a qualified teacher and with babies and young children theres a max of 5 kids allowed and if they are school aged children you can have up to 7. It sounds like she must be only caring about profit and not about caring for the children. I was going to take 4 kids max so they would all receive maximum attention from me. I’d definitely report it to your local government and if they do spot checks they might catch her.
Post # 12
Have you asked her why he’s always such a mess? It’s pretty weird that his hair and all over the place is gunky and dirty. It’s not like he’s old enough to pour the milk over his head.
FX you find somewhere else soon.
Post # 13
I would definitely find a new child care provider ASAP
Post # 14
Is the care provider even licensed? It sounds like she doesn’t know what she’s doing and shouldn’t be trusted with your child.
Post # 15
My husband was a daycare licensor. Report her to your state immediately.
Post # 16
I agree, this is a bad situation. Do you have family, even out of town, that would help until you find something or someone else? You could also look into reputable nanny or baby nurse agencies for a temporary solution.