- 5 years ago
I’m realizing that I have major issues when plans are set and then they change on me. I think it’s part anticipation of plans, part changing other things to make sure the original plans work, and partly I don’t like last minute change and find it difficult to embrace the change.
I really REALLY want to get better at going with the flow and not letting changes in plans bother me… but, they do.
Some examples: I made a cake for DH’s best friend’s b’day. DH has the day off and we had talked about taking his friend the cake tonight. Yesterday, before I started making the cake, asked DH if he still wanted me to do it – he said yes, and that he’d take it to him during the day. I said – ok, are you sure – because I need to make a topping for it and will have to do it in the morning instead of after work (so it doesn’t get all gross). He said, no, it’s fine – he’ll take it during the day. So, this morning, I finish up the cake – and as I’m leaving, DH says maybe he won’t go during the day and maybe we can go tonight. GRRRR!
That whole conversation was also after DH talked to his mom about plans for this weekend. I asked DH if he wanted to do some baking with her for work friends (they always do this) and he said ‘no – not this year’. So, instead, I worked on some alternative gift ideas. Now, he wants to go over… I asked “why?” and he said “oh, so I can take some things to work”. I got frustrated because I thought he had decided he didn’t want to take things to work and now all of a sudden he does. I told him it was fine – but that I need to understand what his plans are so I can plan what I need to get done accordingly.
As you can see – these are NOT life/death issues and DH is perfectly in the right to change his mind.
What I want to work on is getting so frustrated when he does change his mind. If I pause and get past the initial frustration, I’m ok with modifying the plans … it’s that initial angst I want to work on – because it’s unpleasant! 🙂
Does anyone else ‘suffer’ from the same issue? and/or figured out a way to work past it?