Post # 1
My fiancee got me a Tiffany e-ring, colorless 0.6 ct with channel set side stones.
It is not my 1st choice (I love the round cut with square cut side stones from Tiffany but fiancee said it’s only available in 1ct and above) so he bought me this one. When we shopped around I did’t realize he was really serious about proposing to me this soon so I was totally oblivious about ring/diamond!!!
I started to hate his ring when 1) I realized this is not really the one I want and now I’m stuck with it and 2) some ladies I’ve met are very snobbish by commenting that my ring is “cute” and “oh…less than one carat?But.. It’s still big!”
I talked to my fiancee about this and he said that this shouldn’t matter if I really care about is being with him. Well, I want to be with him regardless but I feel like I am stuck with this ring that I sometimes love..but hate the fact that this is not the one! I don’t want to sound like a materialistic girl (I don’t own branded bags etc) but I feel like when it comes to e-ring, it has to be the perfect one.
What do you think? Am I being too demanding? Would you feel the same way if you were in my shoes?
Post # 3
I think your Fiance is right. It shouldn’t matter if you love HIM and want to be with HIM. I think its kind of messed up that you wouldnt defend your FI’s choice. That is a symbol of his love that you are wearing around your finger after all.
Post # 4
If it’s not your style, it’s not your style. I understand, channel set isn’t my cup of tea either.
Post # 5
@MrsNeutrino: I agree with everything you said.
Plus I still think it’s a beautiful ring. Enjoy what you do have, celebrate your engagement, and live life. I hope you do grow to love it.
Post # 6
Does Tiffany have a upgrade policy? Maybe you can get a different ring?
Post # 7
Honestly, ignore the rude comments. People love to be snobbish about other people’s e-rings.
Maybe deal with it for a few years and then ask him to upgrade it for an anniversary present?
Post # 8
@pinkshoes: They do… it has to be upgraded within 5 years of purchase and the new ring has to cost at least double what they appraise the old one for for. I think there’s a fee involved as well.
@Aquila: For what it’s worth, I think it’s beautiful. You have to do what makes you happy, though.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
You have my exact ring – round brilliant with channel set diamonds. Mine is .74, so not much bigger than yours. I’ve had the oh, lovely! comments too – especially when theirs are bigger and brighter, but you know what? I don’t care. Nobody knows my ring is from Tiffany & Co unless they particularly ask… and what does it matter?
Of course, I’m biased, so I think your ring is smokin’ hot. 😉
Post # 10
Its a gorgeous ring! Actually, its very similar to mine, except mine is yellow gold.
Post # 11
@Aure: *double* its *apprasial* value?! WOW. That would be some serious upgrade.
Post # 12
@pinkshoes:I think they do in US. Not sure about Canada. But it has to be done within 5 years. Money can be an issue (Tiffany is very expensive) and I don’t think my fiancee would be happy… I just hate how he didn’t wait and get me the perfect one!
Thanks everyone for the comments. I appreciate your feedback and honesty.
Post # 13
Your Fiance is right. This ring is a symbol of your future union and the promise that you made to each other. If you like another ring better, then buy one for yourself eventually, but your e-ring is a present from him to you.
Post # 14
@pinkshoes: Yeah, I had looked into upgrading after I’d gotten a string of nasty comments (more than one about my .59ct Tiffany Lucida looking like a promise ring). When I brought it up with Fiance he looked at me like I was a crazy woman. Luckily I’ve gotten over it and realized that my ring is in fact perfect for me. I love it no matter what the morons of the world say. I’m in a bit of a different situation than the OP though, I picked my ring myself.
Post # 15
@Aquila: If it’s not your thing, it’s not your thing and you can’t help it. Just wanted to add my two cents.
Darling Husband bought me a ring all by himself (no input from me, since I didn’t know he was planning!) I really disliked it. After a couple of months I started to “tolerate” it and we took it to the jeweler to get a wedding band custom made (the band curved). Well they lost my e-ring. I thought…that’s ok, now I can get the ring I want, but lately I’ve been to the point of tears because I don’t have the ring he proposed with. I know it’s silly and it’s the symbolism…but it breaks my heart.
Maybe take your ring off for a couple days (“forget” it at home…don’t want to offend DH!) and see what you feel like without it. Do you miss it? Maybe you like it more than you think.
Post # 16
Your ring is similar to mine, though it’s bead-set. It’s ok to not be happy about it. I’m biased but I think it’s gorgeous.
@Aure: Same here.