help! I'm burning out and starting to fight depression

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@skippydarling:  I’m sorry things aren’t going well for you!  Please take care of yourself.  Do nice things for yourself – let yourself sleep in, take a bubble bath, get some exercise, eat right.  (I know, I tell myself to do all those things and often fail myself). And most importantly, reach out to a professional to come up with a plan. 

Post # 5
9859 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@skippydarling:  ditto to the previous poster.

Take care of yourself, do nice things for yourself.  Take relaxing bubble baths, eat right.  Can you move to another apartment in your city – there’s nothing worse than hating where you live.  

Post # 7
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@skippydarling:  I would actually focus more on loving the body you are in, and just using healthy eating and exercise to keep you from feeling sluggish and crummy.  Sometimes when I go on a health kick I take it a little too far, and not eating enough or exercising too much make me worse off.

Post # 9
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Everything will be fine – remember to breathe.

I’d make a plan to pay off debt as soon as you can so you can start moving forward with your lives. I haven’t tried this myself (will try after marriage) but I’ve heard that David Ramsey has a good system for paying debt off faster.

And I agree with PP’s – take a break every once in a while, just for you! Even if it’s like going to a fast food joint you never go to or swinging by the park after work to talk a walk (or a golf range to take out some frustrations on a golf ball), it’s something out of your routine.

Post # 10
885 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@skippydarling:  I’m sorry you are feeling this way!  I went through something similar last year, and it ended up taking some changes at work and home that got me out of it.

I think some of the PPs suggestion for exercise is a good one.  My DH and I try to go out for walks together after work, and even if we still end up talking about work or things that are stressing us out, it is so much better to get it out while walking than it is while sitting at home.

Post # 11
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@skippydarling:  Depression is a BITCH, and not something anyone should ever be blamed for.

I generally find that mine is manageable if I’m getting 30 minutes of exercise a MINIMUM of 3 days a week, and I take Fish Oil and a Vitamin B6+B12 supplement.

When that isn’t enough to keep things in check (and sometimes it’s not), I talk to a therapist. If money is an issue, look for therapists with prorated fees. A LOT of therapists will charge you less if you are dead broke.

Post # 12
3831 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Do you use a sun lamp? My FI has depression and in the winter, it’s much easier for him to slip into an episode. We have a floor sun lamp and he reads next to it for 30 mins each morning and it really helps.

I’m not recommending that you don’t try to change the depressing elements of your life (the job, apartment, city, etc.), but this could help you cope while you face these challenges.

+1 to staying active, as well.  Also, if you like to write, journaling is a great way for to let off stress, as well. It’s soothing and you can “say” all things you can’t actually say aloud so they don’t keep building up in your.

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