Post # 1
I understand this will come off as extremely negative and it shows I have a bad attitude but I just cannot get out of this depression. The bright spots in my life that I’m trying to focus on are my family, my loving fiance and my health. Finances are somewhat okay too so that helps.
I hate my job (which I’ve loved for over 8 years but things have dramatically changed in the last 8-10 months and I’m miserable) I hate the city we live in and I hate our gross apartment with our scumbag landlords and neighbors.
We are ready to get the hell out of here. Only thing is – we’re still in some debt so moving without jobs lined up is really tough. It’s wearing down on me and every day is a struggle to get out of bed.
I could use some words of encouragement from bees because true depression is truly starting to sink in
Post # 3
@skippydarling: I’m sorry things aren’t going well for you! Please take care of yourself. Do nice things for yourself – let yourself sleep in, take a bubble bath, get some exercise, eat right. (I know, I tell myself to do all those things and often fail myself). And most importantly, reach out to a professional to come up with a plan.
Post # 4
@Polygon: Thanks – I do need to exercise and eat right.
Ever since I started getting really down a few months ago I’ve really packed on some major pounds. Which only adds to the distress. Thanks again.
Post # 5
@skippydarling: ditto to the previous poster.
Take care of yourself, do nice things for yourself. Take relaxing bubble baths, eat right. Can you move to another apartment in your city – there’s nothing worse than hating where you live.
Post # 6
@MsGinkgo: Truth! Now that my job really sucks, coming home should be a haven but instead it’s just more stress. There are so many things going on with the apartment that it’s not worth getting into. But being stressed at home and at work is a nasty combo.
We don’t like our city – we’ve been here for 8 years and are burnt out on that too. Moving to another apartment would mean we would be stuck here for another year (maybe 6 months if we were lucky) and it would cost SO much money to move and tie up a lot of money with first, last and security deposit. We’d rather just move out of here alltogether.
Post # 7
@skippydarling: I would actually focus more on loving the body you are in, and just using healthy eating and exercise to keep you from feeling sluggish and crummy. Sometimes when I go on a health kick I take it a little too far, and not eating enough or exercising too much make me worse off.
Post # 8
@Polygon: Excellent advice. Thank you.
Post # 9
Everything will be fine – remember to breathe.
I’d make a plan to pay off debt as soon as you can so you can start moving forward with your lives. I haven’t tried this myself (will try after marriage) but I’ve heard that David Ramsey has a good system for paying debt off faster.
And I agree with PP’s – take a break every once in a while, just for you! Even if it’s like going to a fast food joint you never go to or swinging by the park after work to talk a walk (or a golf range to take out some frustrations on a golf ball), it’s something out of your routine.
Post # 10
@skippydarling: I’m sorry you are feeling this way! I went through something similar last year, and it ended up taking some changes at work and home that got me out of it.
I think some of the PPs suggestion for exercise is a good one. My DH and I try to go out for walks together after work, and even if we still end up talking about work or things that are stressing us out, it is so much better to get it out while walking than it is while sitting at home.
Post # 11
@skippydarling: Depression is a BITCH, and not something anyone should ever be blamed for.
I generally find that mine is manageable if I’m getting 30 minutes of exercise a MINIMUM of 3 days a week, and I take Fish Oil and a Vitamin B6+B12 supplement.
When that isn’t enough to keep things in check (and sometimes it’s not), I talk to a therapist. If money is an issue, look for therapists with prorated fees. A LOT of therapists will charge you less if you are dead broke.
Post # 12
Do you use a sun lamp? My FI has depression and in the winter, it’s much easier for him to slip into an episode. We have a floor sun lamp and he reads next to it for 30 mins each morning and it really helps.
I’m not recommending that you don’t try to change the depressing elements of your life (the job, apartment, city, etc.), but this could help you cope while you face these challenges.
+1 to staying active, as well. Also, if you like to write, journaling is a great way for to let off stress, as well. It’s soothing and you can “say” all things you can’t actually say aloud so they don’t keep building up in your.