Post # 1
Tomorrow, my SO has a company event at a baseball game, they’ve rented a box out and will do dinner and that sort of thing. First, let me say two things.
1) I’ve never really met people from his company.
2) There’s a girl who he works with who I know there’s been a mutual attraction with before. Nothing has ever happened between the two and he has verbally let this girl know that nothing will ever happen. Since then she has backed off, and they don’t even really talk anymore. She may still dig my guy though, I don’t know. But I do know I trust my SO completely.
I’m nervous about tomorrow. Mostly, because I’ll have to meet this wench in person. There’s no way avoiding it either, because my SO is signing people in for the first hour. I don’t even necessarily want to avoid meeting her either.
I know my feelings are being fueled by jealousy and immaturity but I’M his soon to be FI and I want her to see me that way. I’m not going to sit in a corner and scowl at her all evening, though nothing would give me greater pleasure! Do you ladies have any tips on how to handle this or let it go?
My only plan of action right now is get a new outfit I feel stellar in and to be more confident (easier said than done!)
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
Just act natural, don’t let it show that you hate this wench’s (LoL! love that word) guts, make it seem like she is nothing to you and not a threat whatsoever! If anything, do your best to keep up conversation with other people so you don’t even need to acknowledge her. But don’t be petty 🙂
Post # 4
@Leelee26: Just be confident, if she is stupid enough to make a comment or act out of place, dont give her the satisfaction of getting a rise out of you. He has clearly made his choice. Some women, not all of them need to see a man with a woman before they back or it could encourage her. Either way be the bigger person.
She might be one of those types who would love for you to make a scene. Just be cool and calm. If she says anything just point out how lucky you are and move on. Perhaps with so many people there you wont even notice her once the festivities kick off.
Post # 5
There is nothing, and I mean nothing a girl can’t get through if she has two things:
Good Manners and Great Hair…the rest is just extra credit…of course women are attracted to your guy, he’s attractive! That’s just the biggest compliment I can think of, when another woman can appreciate what a good lookin man he is…go, have fun, make it a point to talk to everyone there and remember that people love talking to a person, who listens…keep yoursef busy getting to know everyone and just by doing that, your showing this lady why your with your guy and not her, because you are marvelous, interesting, beautiful and dynamic…
Post # 6
Girlfriend it’s okay. HE belongs to YOU not her. If anything, she is the one who should be jealous not you. I have been in a similar situation like this before when my FI’s BFF had his b-day party at a club and his ex gf was there. We previously had a fight over FB because she was sending him messages. When I had FI delete and block her she got on someone else’s FB page who was a friend of his and posted on his wall “hey this is ‘S'” I messaged her to stay away from him or else! So anyways, I was shocked to see her there (well not really because she is his BFF’s cousin) but I said to myself if this heifa say one thing out of line I’ma lose it (but that shouldn’t be your attitude!). She never said anything. She acted funny the whole night (putting her head down while FI and I danced and whatnot). I just smiled and enjoyed my night. I had a great time and I know she was SO jealous of me. Taught her (in your head) he’s yours not hers and she will NEVER have him like she wants!
Oh and it didn’t hurt for me 2 dress a little extra sexy and flash my ring…over and over and over again!
Post # 7
@elysion: I’d only dream of being petty and all the things I WOULD say to her if I was that kind of girl!!
@elysion: I don’t think she’ll say or do anything that’ll piss me off but if she does, I know a good choke hold
@Nona99: I have both!! This response made me laugh as well. My problem is, I’m not a social butterfly around strangers. With friends, I’m outgoing and funny, but when I’m around people I don’t know I think people can see straight through my forced smiles and conversation! I’ve been actively trying to work on this but it’s hard!
@lindseyl06: hahahaha girls girls girls. We can be crazy!
Post # 8
Happiness and confidence from within always shine in my opinion. Be proud and happy you are at the event, but don’t overdo it as if to throw it in her face. Rather, be friendly and show everyone how happy you and SO are together, and what a great couple you make! 🙂
Post # 9
I thought you were going to say you were jealous beacuse you weren’t invited? Sorry but I don’t see the issue here? What exactly are you jealous of? You’ve got the guy…
Post # 10
Honestly you said this was a mutual attraction and once your guy set the record straight she backed off, there is nothing wentchy about this.
Take some extra time to get ready so you feel good about yourself, I know I always feel the most confident when I look my best and go and have a good time at the game.
Post # 11
I don’t really understand why you are jelous, or would scowl in a corner? This is a woman who you could potentially really get along with!
I met someone my husband was attracted to once, and she was actually really pleasant, and I liked her alot. If I just scowled I would have missed that connection, and had a miserable time.
Is there part of your story I am missing out on, because I’m just not clueing in…..
Post # 12
@MadTownGirl: You’re right, I really should just focus on being there and not her. And we do make a fantastic couple 🙂
You bees are the best!
Post # 13
Don’t show jealously. Be confident and stand by your man 🙂 He LOVES YOU. Trust me, I’ve had my fair share of jealously. The best remedy is what I said above. Be confident and know he loves the woman by his side. a.k.a YOU! 🙂
and wearing a new outfit sure helps too! 🙂
Post # 14
I think what everyone has said is pretty much accurate. What I have found in these types of situations is to be nice and pleasant to said person you’re not really fond of. I mean don’t go over board but if your pleasant and sweet it shows you aren’t threatened by her in the slightest. In my experiance it always confuses said person because they are expecting a jealous rude girl and here I am sweet as pie.
I would just be pleasant with everyone, and try your best to socialize and have fun. No need to stress over it, just a fun night with your SO.
Post # 15
@Cash000: I wasn’t really going to scowl in a corner! And I don’t think I want to be friends with this girl. She has hit on my SO multiple times and was trying to get really close to him emotionally. She broke up with her boyfriend and then proceeded to cross the line when while she at work, told him she had a dream that they were on her bed kissing… That’s when my SO told her, she can’t talk like that. My first post on WB was about this. I don’t care if we could potentially hit it off, we very well could, but I’m not open to it when she actively trying to break us up.