- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
I have to admit I’m starting to have a tinge of doubt about my relationship.
And it’s for ONE reason and one reason only…
He just isn’t as affectionate and loving as he used to be.
He is incredible aside from that!
Looking at this the logical way, I tell myself, we’ve been together for a little over a year and the “newness” has just faded.
But– sweet, loving affection is something I want/need!
I mean, it’s seriously done almost a 180. I feel like I’ve done something wrong. He assures me he is still absolutely in love with me, etc. He just used to tell me all the time how incredible I was, how beautiful I was, how much he wanted to be with me.. and I never, ever hear that anymore. Does he just assume I know?
I don’t “shower” him with affection, but pretty close. Things haven’t changed for me and I feel like if he was head over heels for me, saying sweet things and being affectionate would just come naturally?
He’s also an extremely simple person, so maybe he was just like that at the beginning because everything was so “new”. Now that things have settled and we live together, he’s just comfortable.
I don’t know… but I do know I feel unloved sometimes and starting to be unhappy.
I have tried telling him this several times, and it turned into an argument each time. He says he has enough to worry about, let alone having to worry about acting like he doesn’t love/like me.
Maybe he is just stressed?? He does have a lot going on.
I also tried writing him a letter last week, which he read half of. (Said I came home while he was reading… but why didn’t he finish reading it later?) I will mention something tonight in hopes he’ll pick it up again.
It just hurt that it meant so much to me and he didn’t even care to read it. Ouch.
If he were to say the things I said to him in the letter I would be bending over backwards to make sure he was happy!!!
I just don’t get it – I’m not asking him to change, just to be more open with his display of love for me.
Why can’t he do it?
Is your FI affectionate? How do you feel about it?