HELP!! I'm ready to propose to my GF, but don't know where to start!

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I’d love to help, unfortunately I know nothing about moissys. Good luck on your quest and your proposal tho, there’ll be plenty of other bees that will help 🙂

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

@proposing2bee:  You can get a moissanite from moissaniteco.com  That particular style of ring is called a halo and there are lots of different ones on that site. If you are worried about whether it is ‘believable’ you can just get a smaller size. Also, there are differences between moissanite and diamond in terms of looks. In which case, you may want to also look into amora gem from betterthandiamond.com. It is I guess sort of a cross between moissanite and diamond? Like moissanite, but whiter and cut more like a diamond.  There are patent restrictions though, so it depends what country you are in. That site (betterthandiamond) also sells regular moissanite and ring settings, so that is another place you could get it. I haven’t bought from either of them but I’m sure if you did a search you would be able to find plenty of reviews. There have been some complaints about moissaniteco recently, so maybe betterthandiamond is a better option. Moissanite in larger sizes can be a bit yellow so it comes with ‘enhancements’ to make it whiter. One of these is forever brilliant and the other is amora (amora moissanite is different to the amora gem I mentioned above. It seems to be pretty sold out at the moment but just thought I’d mention it so you don’t get confused).

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

@proposing2bee:  Well, it is pretty much impossible to just guess her size. You may try dropping hints or asking someone else or something like that. Otherwise, you may just have to estimate based on the average (which I think is maybe a size 6??) and then resize it if neccessary. You can get the amora gem through shipping forwarding services, if you wanted to go that route. Otherwise you will probably want to get an enhanced moissanite, so it is whiter (so forever brilliant). You could buy a ring from either of those sites or you could buy a loose stone and get it set in a setting from somewhere else. I have heard people have trouble with some of the settings on moissaniteco in regards to loosing stones. I haven’t heard of any troubles with betterthandiamond but I would recommend searching for reviews just in case. There are probably plenty here on the boards. Hopefully another bee who has actually bought from them can share their experience. I believe, since you are in the US, you can buy moissanite in stores too. I’m Aussie so I can’t help too much but I know some bees have bought from Schubachs. And like I said, you could buy a semi-mount from any where with good reviews or a brick and mortar store. A semi-mount is basically a ring with no centre stone. You can then buy a moissanite and get it set. In terms of what size moissanite to get, I’m not sure. I’m Aussie, as I mentioned, and I think we tend to be a bit more conservative in terms of size. Perhaps 1 ct? I guess it depends the kind of lifestyle you usually live as to whether that is believable but I think many women would consider that a good size.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

Just ask her size, it is normal. What about a white sapphire? That may also be an option. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee

http://www.thenaturalsapphirecompany.com/sapphires/sapphire-jewelry/c-28-sapphire-rings/p-50674-white-sapphire-ring-j2897/

 

There is a white sapphire ring there  – I didn’t flip through them too much, but it is an example. You may also go into a mom and pop shop and talk to a jeweler about custom designing, then ask if he can rent out a small diamond, white sapphire, moissy, and other gem to compare. These stones can look different in person then on a screen and you may end up leaning towards something you would not have expected. I have a custom made pad sapphire ring.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

To be believable, a 1ct center with a halo would work. Go with white gold since it is easy to size. order a size 7….

Post # 11
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Busy bee

 

I love moissanite because of the sparkle, how it’s relatively colorless, and is touh and hard. I would not be happy with a white sapphire. To me, the sparkle and depth of the stone just isn’t there.

Have you considered proposing with an empty box and letting her pick the ring? That way she’ll get exactly what she wants.

If you’re very confident she’ll want the ring yiu’re choosing, look on moissanite.com. A halo is a big trend right now (but is also a classic style that’s been around for 50+ yrs) so there are lots of halos available. However, halos are typically comprised of small stones around the center stone.  The pic you posted has more substantial stones in the halo (which is the look I prefer). Getting the ring from moissanite.com has the added benefit of being able to return it if she decides she’d prefer something else.

If you want to go the custom route, I suggest Schubach. They have a website and a brick and mortar store. They’re excellent at custom pieces, and they’ll use any stone you want, unlike most who only work with mined stones. 

Enlist one of her friends to find out her ring size. You can find out your ring size by asking the jewelry counter customer service person at walmart. They have a ring sizer. Any jeweler can tell you. A friend of hers could easily get her into a jewelry store or walmart and have her get her ring size. 

 

@proposing2bee:  

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

@IheartUFC:  Pretty much entirely agree with PP. While sapphire is a fine suggestion, if OP SO has requested moissanite (which it sounds like she has) then she will probably prefer that to sapphire, since it sparkles more. Also, I think 1ct is a good balance between believable and largeish size. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee

http://www.moissanite.com/rings/engagement-rings/aailyah-400-cttw-oval-moissanite-ring-14k-white-or-yellow-gold

http://www.moissanite.com/rings/engagement-rings/classique-235-cttw-halo-classic-round-brilliant-moissanite-ring-with-diamond-accents-14k-white-yellow-gold

http://www.moissanite.com/lille-248-cttw-oval-moissanite-ring-14k-white-or-yellow-gold-6228

http://www.moissanite.com/rings/engagement-rings/carina-376-cttw-oval-moissanite-antique-halo-ring-14k-white-or-yellow-gold

I posted some ovals bc I’m thinking they may be more flattering to her short, stubby fingers. Also, perhaps a wider band would be better. I find thin bands cut into stubby fingers and make them look chunky. 

Just make sure you tell her she can exchange the ring. There are lots of women who receive a ring they’re jot crazy about, but they feel like they’re stuck with it. Make sure she loves it and knows she isn’t stuck with it. 

Post # 16
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Busy bee

@outofideas Appreciated comment :)! I don’t know the shine factor between the two I just know some girls love moissies and some really don’t. I think I posted somewhere else that I loved someone’s square cut moissy (it really stunned me 🙂 ) but generally not a moissy lover – which is why I thought I would offer a sapphire suggestion. I am, of course, biased by my own little peach sapphire. 

Also – I am not sure about this one because I don’t do tons of searching but maybe someone can speak to OP on color – I think that there is a risk of colors (maybe faint yellow?) in certain moissies that goes away if you buy a different type (something brilliant?). 

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