Post # 1
I really want to incorporate my soon to be 3 yr old step son into our ceremony but have no idea what to do. I’ve seen the family unity sand but I just don’t think he’ll be able to handle it. What can I do?? Help please!!
Post # 3
My daughter is 5 and we are planning on giving her a necklace during the ceremony. We havent exactly figured out what wordings we will use, but we are hoping that it will work out.
Post # 4
For a 3 yr old it has to be kept simple.
You could ask your officiant to include a line where you pledge to support each other as a family and each of you says “I do”. They love to mimic at that age so copying what you and your FI say should be ok if you keep it short.
You could then give him a ring that he can wear when he is older- perhaps put it on a chain around the neck of a super hero . That will also give him something new to play with and occupy himself at the wedding.
You can get a tuxedo costume to fit a super hero toy in the Barbie and Ken section of the toy department or one like this:
Post # 5
We did what tranquility did–I have a four year old and she was the flower girl. She had a seat in the front row and we brought her up to give her a necklace during the ceremony. Below is the wording we used for that part of our ceremony. We put it in the ceremony right before our ring exchange. We had my husband get down on one knee so he was at eye level with my daughter. It was one of the most touching moments of our ceremony!
At this time, *name of groom* has a special vow and gift for *name of daughter*. (*daughter* comes forward)
(*Groom* repeats after the Pastor)
*Name of daughter*, I wasn’t there when you took your first steps, but I promise you that I will continue to love and support you in every step that you take in your life. This necklace is a symbol of that promise to you. (*Groom* puts necklace on *name of daughter*)
Post # 6
@clane616: oh man you made me cry. CAN I HAVE ONE DAY WITHOUT CRYING ON WB?!?!?!
So sweet… seriously the sweetest words.
Post # 7
DH’s 3 year old was our ring bearer. We contemplated putting him in the ceremony but when we practiced it, he was even too shy to do it in front of family members. So I just made promises to him in my vows. I think it depends on the child at that age.