HELP!! Invitation wording for parents who HATE each other!

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

@BurlapnLace:  If they are paying for it, that’s one thing…but even at that why not put ‘Together with their families…’ as your lead in?

Post # 4
1193 posts
Bumble bee

You can write “Together with their parents” or “Together with their families” to introduce your invites.

At the reception, just introduce and have them walk in separately, but in sequence: Introducing the Mother of the Groom, XXXX. Introducing the Father of the Groom, XXXX. 

Then they can go sit at their respective tables.

Post # 6
1532 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You do not put divorced parents name on the same line

You can put


Mr and Mrs Brides Parents

Mrs. Groom Mom

Mr. Groom Dad


blah blah lah


Or Mr and Mrs. Brides Parents


blah blah







son of Mrs Groom

Mr Groom

Post # 7
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@BurlapnLace:  The only reason you specifically put your parents’ names on the wedding invitation is if they’re the ones hosting (ie, paying for) the wedding. If not, just put something to the effect of “You are invited to join BurlapnLace and Mr. Burlapnlace-to-be as they celebrate their marriage”. If you want to mention your families or if they’re contributing some of the financing, you could do like @LDay1983 says and mention “Join Burlapnlace and Mr. BurlapnLace to be and their families” but even that doesn’t seem necessary.

Of the many, many wedding invitations I’ve received, only a handful used anything like the traditional “Mr. and Mrs. Smith invite you to celebrate the marriage of their daughter Jane Smith to So and So” phrasing. Because most people host their own weddings in this day and age.

Post # 9
1259 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@LDay1983:  +1


We have a similar situatoin except FI’s parents are divorced and have both remarried. So no ones names are on the invitation (no parent’s names)


I know of some couples who put the bride’s parents’ names on only. I think that’s only of they’re paying for the whole wedding though. They say something like


“John Jones & Suzy Jones request your presence at the marriage of their daughter Annie Jones to John Doe” … or something along those lines


Post # 10
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

You can put your mom’s name on it  and leave off his parents’. I see that all the time.


If you really want his parents on it.

Groomy Groom

son oF

Ms. Mom Groom (although once married she can use Mrs.)

And (you can take out the and if you like)

Mr. Dad Groom

Usually if a married couple is listed you will see either.

Mr. and Mrs. Dad Groom or Mr. Dad and Mrs. Mom Groom

Post # 11
4163 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

If you want family on the invite, you could put

Mom BurlapnLace
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of her daughter
Son of
Mom of Groom
Dad of Groom.

My parents are divorced, and we just announced them separately- “Introducing Rebwana’s Proud parents, Mom, escorted by date, and Dad and StepMom.”

Usually after two decades, people can suck it up enough to at least be civil. 🙂


Post # 12
7929 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

If they appear by name on the invitation, you would give each his/her own line, usually with the woman first, and there would be no “and.” “And” would indicate that they are married.

For example:


Jonathon Mark Doe

son of

Ms. Ann Doe

Mr. James Doe

Post # 13
1737 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN

@BurlapnLace:  Unless they are helping pay you don’t HAVE to mention them. Now, if you just want to mention them you can say what the others have said about together with their parents or the parents of if the parents are paying and yall are not. Whether or not his parents are married doesnt change the fact that they are still his parents.

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