- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
Again I am in tears over this. My FIs mom called today to chat with him, and he passed the phone to me little miss can’t keep a secret. Here’s the background story – we were originally going to have a traditional wedding. Invite all our famly and friends, party all night, the whole nine yards. I created this wedding blog to keep our families in touch with the planning since we all live so far away. My FMIL didn’t like a couple things I had posted and called my FI freaking out about it, so I just deleted the whole thing to make her happy. I then felt as though this whole wedding was just to please her since I really didn’t have the time money, or patience to plan one. My FI then talked seriously about eloping. My parents preferred the idea to save money, and knowing me, they didn’t want me to stress. The idea was nice because we could actually spend the day completely focused on our love for each other and not the decor, the itinerary, or the guests’ happiness. Just on us. After going back and fourth for a few months, we agreed on this. Despite the fact my FMIL hated the idea and was very upset, I figured it wasn’t her decision to make.
So today, after countless times of debating and arguing with my FI about it, I asked again if we should just invite our parents. This was after he passed me the phone and I almost told his mom where we will be holding our ceremony. Damn me, I am such an idiot simetimes! Then I felt even worse when she asked if I was going to tell her where the ceremony was being held and I said, “…..No….” while my FI is sitting next to me slapping shit and yell-whispering, “THEY DO NOT KNOW WE ARE HAVING IT IN _________, shut up!” Seriously, I started sweating and getting even more stressed out. I HATE keeping secrets! My FI is an only child – his mom will now not get to see him marry. It kind of breaks my heart! Not to mention how much she has helped us out financially… My parents have never even offered. But at the same time, I’m number three out of four kids and no one else has had an actual wedding either. Not much different, and my parents are accepting of this…. I still do ‘t know ):
I guess the question I need help answering is will I regret not having our parents there, or will I be happier in the long run if it’s just us two?
Thank you for letting me vent, and helping me with my issues.