- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
I have a really unique situation. I got engaged over a year ago, when I had another job. I started a new one in January. Our department of 6 ppl is pretty close, even though it’s only been a few months, and I’ve gotten to be friends with a couple girls that I work with in another department.
BUT… my boss is also engaged and getting married a few months after me. I found out that he has sent save the dates to the ppl in our dept that were working there before I started (2 ppl), but not myself or the 2 people I was hired with. So that throws a monkey wrench into this. I haven’t sent save the dates out to any co-workers because I didn’t know what I wanted to do at that point.
His wedding is over Thanksgiving wknd and out of town, so I can’t go because we spend Thanksgiving with my fiances family and x-mas with mine. But since he is my boss, I wouldn’t want to be invited and NOT go. So I’m nervous that inviting him will make him feel obligated to invite me to his- or make him feel uncomfortable. But I don’t want to be unfriendly either or make them feel like I’m not including them, especially since my wedding is in the town we all live in.
I’ve only known these people for about 4 months, so I know that I don’t HAVE to. I like them and go out for drinks with them occasionally after work. But I was extremely close with my old team at my old job and am not inviting them because there’s just too many of them (12 + 1’s). Our wedding is very small, with about 130 invites. It’s mostly family. My fiance is inviting a few of his co-workers, but he has worked there for nearly 2 years and become pretty close with them (a couple of them are friends from before he worked there).
I’m kind of at a loss of what to do.