Post # 1
I need your help! We are working on the guest list, and I work with about 60 other people and we have a branch with about 15 people. We are all kind of a close knit work family. i mean, some of them, I don’t talk to often or don’t see often, but I would feel bad if they weren’t invited. Some people send out an invitation that goes around the work place and people sign off on if they are coming or not (kind of RVSP’ing) or if they are just going to the wedding but no reception and vice versa. I just feel like I want to invite them all to be fair. I know that some people would feel bad if they didn’t get an invite, but it would also cut down on the costs if we only did one invite for each branch rather than sending out 75 invitations.
Post # 3
I’m confused. Are you saying they are all definately invited, but you don’t know if they should each get an individual invite?
Or you’re not sure who to invite?
Post # 4
Everyone is invited. I know not everyone will show up, but I want everyone to know that they are at least invited. Some people that I am closer to, I feel that they should get an individual invite though
Post # 5
Ok, I understand now.
Are you inviting your coworkers with kids, spouses, just themselves? I think that would make a difference as to how you invite them.
Post # 6
I recently had a coworker who got married, who only invited a few people from our department. I wasn’t invited and wasn’t offended. So for my wedding, if I’m only inviting coworkers who I talk to outside of work. The only thing would be to not talk a lot about who’s invited to your wedding so those who aren’t don’t feel left out.
Post # 7
I think that I would invite co-worker and spouse. I have seen how they have been done but other co-workers, and usually it’s their department that shows up, but I work with many departments, so that’s kind of hard too. Also, EVERYONE asks me about the wedding, so they all know about it. It is just tough…
Post # 8
I sorta think that if you’re inviting all of them (and technically, you have to invite spouses and FIs/live-in partners), then you should give them all invitations. Especially because as a PP said, it makes it much clearer exactly who is invited. If you send around an RSVP sheet, you run the risk of people RSVPing their three kids and then having to do the oh-so-fun thing of saying, “Um, sorry but…”
Keep in mind the formality of your wedding, too. If you are having a ballroom black-tie affair, I think it’s more necessary to do individual invites. If you are having a more informal shindig, it’s less necessary.
You can, however, at least save on postage and hand out the invitations in person.
Post # 9
are you inviting them to the ceremony only or the reception as well?
Post # 10
I was thinking both the reception and ceremony, but I am not for sure on that part either yet.
Post # 11
I guess I don’t really get the RSVP sheet thing? Does it get passed around the office??
Personally I would still do individual invites and I agree I see no problem with handing out those invites. Although for me I still wanted to mail them out. 🙂
Post # 12
I know you are saying not all will show up, but still – I would be concerned with 60 ppl just from your job (& guests!). How many ppl r u thinking in total? I work in a school, and am a school counselor who works closely with many of the staff (about 70ppl). Although I like many of my co-workers there is no way I could invite them all. I am actually struggling with that decision rite now. So far I know I will definately invite 3, but our 4 secretaries bought us an engagement gift so has me thinking – but then if i invite them i have to invite my assistant principals etc. ughhhh!!!! Sorry stressing myself on your post!