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    Roux    December 2, 2012   Ballarat, Australia

    I need some help bees!

    My cousin will be nearly 10 at our wedding, which I figure is too old to be a flowergirl, so junior bridesmaid it is!

    My only problem is Mr. Roux is being a bit strange about wanting even bridal parties. He is having 1 best man, 3 groomsmen, and 2 page boys. I'm having 1 maid of honor, 2 bridesmaids, 1 junior bridesmaid, and 2 flowergirls.

    I say the parties are even, he says they aren't. Grr.

    He says he doesn't want one of his groomsmen to walk down the aisle during the recessional with my cousin. He hadn't really given me a good reason other than 'no, it would be weird.' The GM who would walk with her is a total sweetie and a charmer and a great guy. I think it would be really cute.

    The ONLY thing for the whole wedding where they would have to do anything together is this 50 foot walk out of the chapel after the wedding, but FI is being really stubborn about this!!

    Did you have a Junior BM? What did she do? Did she walk with an adult GM?

     
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    FutureMrsChaney    October 1, 2011   Coral Springs,FL

    We had my 12 year old cousin she walked down with DHs 16 year old cousin. Our bridal party was uneven but we had 2 bms walk down with my brother. it wasnt a huge deal. My Photographer "forgot" to take a full bridal party picture so I didnt really get to see how it would have looked in a picture together. This is a non pro pic!

    Help! is anyone else having/had a junior bridesmaid? :  wedding 339442 10100869917814609 8809991 64759656 842817805 O

     
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    Roux    December 2, 2012   Ballarat, Australia

    Wow, I love her dress! Very pretty, but not too grown up.

    FI wants 2 GMs to walk with 1 BM, which I think is odd, unlike 2 BMs with one GM which is pretty standard. I think it would be really strange for a threesome to walk together, but have her walk alone. Especially since the flowergirls will be holding hands, so if she doesn't walk with a GM she will be the only one walking solo.

    I can't believe this is what FI and I are having tension about. I thought we'd fight over cake flavours or bands, but apparently this is our issue, lol.

     
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    hawk    May 2012   Richmond, Virginia

    My sister is my junior bridesmaid. (She's 12.) We are having the bridesmaids walk down the aisle solo at the beginning of the ceremony. At the end I'm having her hold hands with the flower girl to walk out.

     

     
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    Seaside    June 2012   NJ

    Crap I totally haven't thought about who will walk her yet! I had wanted her to be a flower girl but like yours, she will be 10 which I ugess is too old.

    She has a 12 and a 16 year old brother, maybe we'll throw one or both of them in with the groomsmen and then have them walk her.

    Otherwise I'll send her down solo- thats fine right?

     
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    IreneG    May 12, 2012   Lodi, California

    We have one best man 2 groomsmen and 1 maid of honor one bridesmaid and 2 Jr bridesmaids and a ring bearer and flower girl. Im just going to have the Jr bridesmaids walk down with the last gm

     
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    alittlerusty    October 1, 2011  

    My 14 year old little sis was a Jr. Bridesmaid. Luckily, I also have a 14 year old step brother who walked with her and was our Jr. Groomsman. However, I don't think there is anything wrong with her making a solo trip down the aisle.

     
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    Wonderstruck    September 18, 2011   Detroit, MI

    I ran into this (but ours was based more on uneven numbers than the junior BMs age) and ended up just having the guys already  up front and all the BMs walked down alone. Would that be an option? Although I do think your FI is being kind of silly.

     
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    live laugh love    September 29, 2012  

    yes, I am having my 11 year old neice.  So i thought we should have a Junior groomsmen. It works perfectly, because my fiance and I met at his 4th birthday party. Lots of significance for us.  They will walk together just at the end.

     
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    auggiefrog    August 25, 2012   Wauwatosa, WI

    Your FI wouldn't like my bridal party...  We have 2 GM and 2 BM's...  then we are planning on having all of his nieces and nephews involved in so'sme way...  his 2 nephews we were thinking of making ushers and making 2 of his nieces Jr BM (ages 11 and 8ish) and the youngest (age 5) flower girl.  I will probably have the two Jr BM walk down together, or have the ushers escort them.  (but most likely the first option) 

     
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    Roux    December 2, 2012   Ballarat, Australia

    For the processional (walking down the aisle) the guys will be ushering guests/escorting mothers/grandmothers. Its just the recessional (walking back up the aisle after the wedding) that he is making such a fuss over.

    The GM in question will be 22, is very tall and charming, and great with kids. He has a few nieces and nephews of his own. I think it would be cute to see him walking with a 10 year old. Totally innocent and maybe a bit cheesy (in a good way).

    I can't understand why this is such a big deal to him! The recessional will take all of 30 seconds!!

     
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    LaviniaRose2013    April 27, 2013  

    @Roux:  I WAS a junior bridesmaid and walked back down the aisle with one of the groomsman, and it was no big deal.  Does Mr. Roux think his groomsman is going to "ruin her" as per society standards of a century or two ago just by walking with her??  LOL I'm just kidding about that part.  If it's such a big deal, make her a bridesmaid.  Nobody ever said how old you have to be to be a bridesmaid!

     
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    CourtneyFord    July 28, 2012   Casper Wy

    hey! i think you should ask the gm if he minds or it makes him uncomfortable... the only problem i see with it is if it makes him uncomfortable..... which i doubt it will! we are having 1moh and 3 jrbms.... my moh is walking with a jrgm and my jrbms are walking with gm..... i want to include my fi and my family and this works perfect! its silly to have tension over a simple walk. or you could find a family friend around the same age that is not involved in the wedding but stands and walks her up....... good luck!!!

     

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