Post # 1
Help, I need to know if I am being irrational or not… One of my fiancee’s potential groomsmen is his ex girlfriend’s brother in law… So this guy is married to his ex’s sister… They have been friends for a long time and did not have any association with the sisters before they met. I find it awkward having him in our wedding, knowing that he is somewhat related to his ex of four years. His buddy lives in another state and they do not talk on a regular basis, yet they are still very good friends.
I am trying to be rational, but I cannot come to terms with him being in our wedding, the most special day of our lives, and in the wedding that my family is paying for 110%…. What should I do???
Post # 3
If he’s a close friend of your FI, which obviously seems he is since he is a potential groomsman, then I wouldn’t mind.
I am very good friends with a long-ago ex’s brother, he is actually coming to visit us this summer and my guy is fine with that and looking forward to meeting him. We’ve been friends for years and don’t even talk about my ex in conversation as we have so many other things in common. And he will definitely be invited to our wedding.
Also, one of my best friends (who I am asking to be a BM) is my cousin’s ex-wife (both are now happily married to their perfect partners). I know this will probably annoy my aunt, since she was NEVER nice to my friend when she was with my cousin, but my cousin & his wife know that her & I have always remained close so auntie will have to suck it up.
I think when you become really good friends with someone, regardless of how you met, if they are that important to you or to your FI, then I would want them to share in our wedding celebration.
Post # 4
This is tough. Unfortunately, unless your FI wanted to invite YOUR ex to be his groomsman, I don’t think you have much say in the matter. Of course, you could tell your FI that it makes you a little bit uncomfortable…but, it may cuase an issue where there is not really one. Does your FI know that his relationship with this guy upsets you? Would you object to him being at your wedding, period…or is it just that he is a groomsman?
Post # 5
I wouldn’t worry about it because the ex is not invited.
He happens to be married to her sister. I seriously doubt she’d show up..but in case just cover that base right now making sure she has no inclination of just "showing up".
Wish you the best!