HELP- Is he cheating on me? What's going on?

posted 2 months ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

dalia88 :  You should ask him, and maybe be a little more trusting. Especially if nothing like this has ever happened before. 

Post # 3
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Honey bee

Given the other stuff you’ve posted about this guy, I would probably be suspicious too. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

It doesn’t sound like you trust him at all, this is not a healthy relationship. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

dalia88 :  But you would not have known that if you had not snooped, so you must have had a reason beyond the “oh I just happened to look” that you make it sound like in the post. 

I have not looked through your other posts, but it sounds like other bees know that you have some issues. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee

I’m sorry, Bee. That does sound a little suspicious. 

If I were you, when I talk to him I would give him the chance to tell you if he ended up going out somewhere last night before you even bring up the email. 

If he met up with friends, chatted outside the bar and then waited for an uber that could explain the 3am timeframe. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

dalia88 :  If his mother could reach him at the hotel why can’t you? He’s really the only person who can answer your questions. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

You’ve had concerns in the past. It sounds like this is more than just one incident of you not trusting him. I would talk to him and see what happened. 

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It would drive me crazy if my partner tracked my movements like this. Who knows what happended after he talked with you? Someone from work he hadn’t seen for a long time, could have called him and persuaded him to go out for a drink. Perhaps he had more than one and slept in this morning because he was really tired.

Anyone who travels for work knows that it is extremely boring to spend evenings in your hotel by yourself. Just because he went out doesn’t mean he is cheating.

If you don’t trust him, ask him.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

Before I thought anything I would wait to talk to him and ask him how his night was.  He may say I decided to go to a bar down town and didn’t back until 3…  And if he were cheating, you would think he would be gone more than 2 hours.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

dalia88 :  If this behavior was so unusual for him why did you jump to snooping his emails, google stalking addresses and calling his mum? 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

dalia88 :  But even unusual activity ONCE does not automatically equate to cheating. There is a reason your mind automatically went there.

If my FI did not stick to his normal routine, I would be calling hospitals and jails to see if something happened, not snooping through his stuff to see if he was cheating. 

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