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Isn't honour the spelling Brits use and honor the spelling Americans use? I guess throwing in the u feels fancier, but I don't think one's right or wrong.
actually, its used even on american invites. Honour indicates that the wedding will be held in a church. its also the traditional way of spelling it. same goes with "favour" this according to Emily Post's Wedding Etiquitte book.
in common vanacular, its the difference between the brits and americans, but does not go the same for wedding invites.
Us Canucks use the "u". It's the British way. I hadn't realized it was an etiquette thing too! You learn something new every day!
"Honour" and "favour" are usually used on more fancy invitations or if you are having your ceremony in a church. Honor and Favor are typically used in ceremonies that are not in a place of worship. Just make sure if you use "honour" to also use "favour" and not mix them up.
Uhhh...how does a 'u' indicate that the wedding will be in a church? I really don't understand how a correlation exists there, how arbitrary is that?
I'm having a formal wedding and will not be using a 'u'. Like previous posters said, that's the British spelling, and I'm not British (nor do I think the Brits are in any way 'fancier' than us). It just seems a little pretentious to me. No 'u' here.
That's interesting. I read that "honour" is used on all wedding invtiations (as opposed to, say, a retirement party invite), but that the difference for a wedding held in a church and one conducted elsewhere lies in whether you use "honor of your presence" or "pleasure of your company."
@teaadntoast - You're right, the "honor or honour of your presence" is for a church wedding and the "pleasure of company" is for a wedding outside of a church. I got them mixed up :) But I think the spelling is still something that is a preference and to signify if is more formal or not.
since we are having a simple wedding, we did honor. Also, i figured since we aren't british, there was no need for their spelling.
I just avoided all this by deciding to get married in an old house. "Pleasure" is spelled the same no matter where you are!
I ditto @Angeleri2bee...less formal wedding & invites, & not British, so using "honor".
I think it is really just personal preference. We have enough Europeans and Canadians coming to our wedding that we are using the "u," (it is a running joke in our crowd), but I have seen several invitations where it wasn't used and they looked beautiful.
Umm,I'm REALLY glad to read all these responses & know that there isn't a right or wrong on this topic, since I did my own invitations & spelled in "honor", before I thought to research this debate.Go Americans!! & Really?? How does the letter "u" or the use of the word "hono(u)r" indicate a church ceremony?? We are not having our ceremony in a church, but used "the honor of your presence" to give a more formal feel, rather than "the pleasure of your company":) From what I gather, it is ABSOLUTELY personal preference on this one!!
I've never heard of this "pleasure of your company" vs "hono(u)r of your presence" distinction. I can't recall what was on the invitations of the weddings I've been invited to, but I would've never thought that one meant "oh, church!" and the other meant "not a church!". Hahaha. Sometimes ignorance is bliss. I think I'd go crazy trying to learn every single itty bitty in and out that I'm guessing most people don't know and/or care about.
I'm British so it's honour over here. We always spell things the 'long way' over here!
I'm actually doing pleasure of your company because honestly, it's not really an honor to be invited to a wedding imo. They're all family and friends- no politicians or judges from work at my shindig so I prefer the pleasure of their company. And I'm having a formal wedding. So I guess etiquette wants to slap me in the face but oh well!
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Hey ladies,
In all the sample wording for the invites that I have seen, people are using the spelling "honour"....is that correct? How did you word your invites? (e.g., _____ seats have been reserved in your honour)
Thanks!!!!