HELP! Is MOH/Sister doing me dirty?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What Should I do?
    Her fashion show comes first so help her plan it : (2 votes)
    13 %
    You only get one wedding so forget the fashion show : (3 votes)
    19 %
    Choose another MOH and let her know why : (3 votes)
    19 %
    Speak to her about your feelings and see what she says : (8 votes)
    50 %
  • Post # 2
    9526 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’m not really sure how to answer your poll. Certainly her fashion show is incredibly important, but so is your wedding. I don’t think you both need to have the same priority – her priority should be her show and yours should be your wedding. That’s how priorities work – they’re different for different people. And that’s okay.  It was pretty crummy of her to bail on your plans to go fabric shopping, because she committed to doing that. But otherwise I don’t think she’s really done anything all that bad. None of my bridesmaids/bridesguys/MOH helped with my invitations or bouquets (I made them all out of paper) or any other wedding projects. So while it would be great if she was helping out more, it isn’t that big of a deal that she isn’t.

    Also, I think it’s totally reasonable that she doesn’t want to do an entire weekend trip for a bachelorette. The large majority of bachelorette’s I’ve been to are only one evening, so i think that’s pretty typical, and wouldn’t be upset if that’s the route she goes.  Also, it sounds like you have other bridesmaids who are helping out and doing great things. Which is great. But it doesn’t mean that your MOH has to keep up with them. 

    So my advice would be to lower your expectations for your sister and enjoy the support you’re getting from everyone else. Luckily you don’t really need all that much from your MOH, so I wouldn’t worry about her not doing her duties unless you are really concerned that she might not show up sober and properly attired for your wedding. Because that’s really what’s important.

    ETA: About the chair covers, I think you are well within your rights to not loan those out if you aren’t comfortable with that. Especially since her event would be before yours.

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