Post # 1
Hi All! I’m lost right now. I’m on the verge of eloping rather than deal with my family…
Ok, here’s the biggest issue. Me & the Fiance are one of those couples who are having to pay for their own wedding. Ok, not a problem – things would be easier if we had help, but we are making the best out of what we have. Well, we decided in Dec to get married in Oct of this year. A week later the Fiance lost his job. I decided to have faith & go on with the wedding. Of course due to a very small budget I have had to pretty much purchase everything used. That’s not a problem to me, but my sweet little grandmother always has something negative to say. Well, then we come to the issue of our reception food. I have called every catering co in town & the cheapest I can find is $14.95 a person for finger foods! Maybe I’m on such a budget that I have become ‘cheap’ but that just seems ridiculous to me! That’s for 6 choices. Well, my original plan was to do a lot of finger foods myself for the reception. I have about 80 people coming & I have strayed away from that idea because I’m affraid of not having enough food & I really don’t want to put my family out like that because they would be the ones to keep trays full, serve etc.. I want them to enjoy my day – not work on my day. It really bothers me to think of my family not being able to sit & enjoy the day with me. This is one BIG reason me & the Fiance are not going to the beach to marry because we want all of our family to be with us & enjoy our day with us. A lot of our family have faced financial hardships lately so we feared they would not all be able to travel for a ‘destination’ wedding. So, again we are thinking of everyone else!! Anyways, sorry got off on a rant! We found a great little Mexican restuarant that will do our reception for $10 a person. That includes quesadillas, tacos & burittos (chicken, steak & beef), rice, beans, lettuce, sour cream, quacomole, chips, salsa, cheese dip, sweet tea, plates, cups, napkins, silverware – A LOT!! I feel like this is wonderful & wonderful for my budget! Well… Here come the ‘Negative Nancys’! My grandmother, who by the way is like my mother because she raised me, HATES this idea. She said it is a horrible idea & our family can pull together & due a much better job & have much better food. I love it & I love the fact that my fam doesn’t have to work….
IS THE MEXICAN DINNER A BAD IDEA? Our venue is very rustic & vintage so anything can go basically. I just need some advice. We have such a low budget & I just feel like this would be perfect. Oh I forgot to add we are doing a 5pm reception, so I do feel kind of oblogated to serve something heavy – even if it is heavy finger foods.
Lol I think I’ve covered all bases! HELP PLEASE!!!
Thank you for your time & advice!
Post # 3
I think Mexican food would be great, if that is what you want. It would be one of our choices, but Fiance doesn’t like Mexican food. And our venue is more Victorian, so it doesn’t really fit our theme, but if I were a guest at your wedding, I would love it.
Post # 4
I think a Mexican reception sounds fun!
Post # 5
I would love to have mexican at a reception. As a guest, I would think it’s a great idea. I’d be concerned about messing things up with your grandma though. Does she think it’s tacky? or does she think people won’t enjoy it?
Post # 6
My fiance and I are doing a Mexican/Filipino buffet! We are on such a tight budget and going this route allowed us to have A LOT more food than had we gone with a more “traditional” menu. Some of our older family members have given us strange looks but we’re paying so we are doing the best we can. Most of our guests say it sounds delicious and I’m really excited now!
So I say – go for it! Your wedding will be beautiful and your guests will be full!
Post # 7
I say one million percent, go for it!! In fact, it’s exactly what I’m doing and I cannot wait!!
We’re having our wedding at an old Victorian house turned Bed & Breakfast, very vintage and rustic, and I scoured the city looking for reasonably priced catering. My fiance and I are paying for the wedding ourselves, too, and our budget just can’t handle $40 per person and up (and up and up and up!). Instead, we’re having wicked good fajitas served family style with salsa, guacamole, all the delicious sides – and I am so excited!! It’s going to be so tasty, a million times better than the rubber chicken wedding options our budget could accommodate, and I think it goes perfectly with the relaxed, vintage vibe of our wedding.
$10 per person is a steal, and Mexican food is so darn yummy – who doesn’t like it? I don’t know what your Grandma’s issue with it is, so maybe you could ask? I really think that having the time to spend with your family, just enjoying their company as opposed to making people work in the days leading up to the wedding, is worth the $10 per person. Does anyone in your family have food prep experience? If not, maybe do some reading – I know there are threads here and on the IndieBride boards about brides who’ve done self-catering. Maybe if you presented to your grandmother the scope of the work involved in self-catering, she would come around? Just think how much work it is to host Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner… and multiply that by a lot! And managing family members often causes tension (at least, if you have ‘big personality’ people like my family does), and you don’t want a bunch of grumbling and whatnot leading up to your wedding!
In summation: Mexican food = yummy to my tummy; peace of mind before your wedding = probably worth more than $10 per person
Best of luck either way! It sounds like our weddings might have a similar vibe, if you want to PM me and exchange ideas 🙂
Post # 8
i think mexican is a great idea! we are thinking of doing it for our wedding…. I think you have spent enough time worrying about your family. This should be your choice hands down.
Post # 9
I actually wish mexican food was an option for my wedding, but we couldn’t find a caterer that would do it justice! I say go for it.
Post # 10
We’re actually DIYing (with help of course) our food for our 50-60 person reception. We’re doing a DIY fajita bar, a homemade salsa bar, a couple other finger foods and a desert bar. For anyone that doesn’t like fajitas (are there such people?) we’ll be providing extra lettuce and salad fixings and they can make a chicken or steak salad. I think its actually becoming a fairly popular choice and if grandma doesn’t like it she can pack her own dinner 😉 Do what makes you happy
Post # 11
Can I come? I LOVE mexican food! Plus, it’s like an automatic party!
However, have you considered a brunch? That would also be very inexpensive, and would keep everyone from being annoying. IT should totally be up to you, though! People should be happy to be included in your day…the food should not be the top priority!
Post # 12
Oh boy, sounds like we have similar grandmothers. I think Mexican sounds good. Mexican food rocks! I just ate it for dinner! Hmmmm sour cream!
Post # 13
mmmmm. I think it sounds fantastic!
Post # 15
I’m sorry you’re having so many issues with your grandma. I think Mexican sound fabulous…I’ll take a burrito over hors’deouvres (sp?) anyday!! If I were in your shoes I would let them know the following “We are really excited to have mexican food it will be awesome I know you guys want ____, however its nowhere near our budget, I want you guys to enjoy yourselves at the wedding and i dont want you to worry about cooking anything” Good luck!
Post # 16
I for one would LOVE Mexican food for dinner. However, we knew our guests wouldn’t agree. So we are having Mexican for our rehersal dinner :). My friends are having a taco bar at their reception 🙂 Soooo excited. Mexican food is the most delicious thing on earth 🙂