HELP!! Issues with bridesmaid/ future sister in law

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
29 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

What does your fiance say about it?  It’s his sister correct?  I would say clear what you say with him before you make any moves. 

However, I would say because these are things that you have to get nailed down you need to address the situation ASAP.

I would say something along the lines of ‘Hey! We haven’t had much time to talk in a while.  How are you? Maybe we could have lunch/drinks/dinner and catch up.”

Maybe she’s feeling some neglect or something that is causing her to be withdrawn.  If at that point she’s still ignoring you I would talk to her about whether or not she still wants to be a part of your special day.  In the end it doesn’t matter if her wedding isn’t working out the way it should.  This is your wedding and it’s special to you.  However, if she does say she’d like to talk I would take the time to find out what’s wrong then at the end of the night bring up your wedding and getting her a dress.

If you’re close with your FMIL I would also get advice from her.  Ask her about her daughter, if she’s doing ok, that she seemed distant, etc.  Whatever you do, don’t put her down, just be nice and try to be encouraging. 

And if none of those things work maybe you should just be blunt.  Tell her you aren’t sure why she’s upset and that you want her to be part of your day but if she’s going to continue ignoring you perhaps it would be best if she come as a guest instead.

Post # 4
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42538 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If she can’t afford a dress, is it possible she can’t afford to go to the wedding?

I suggest your FI talk with her. She is his sister.

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