Help! I've no idea what kind of rock I should get her!

posted 2 years ago in Rings
  • poll: What kind of stone should I get her?
    fairly low-grade natural diamond : (18 votes)
    21 %
    moissanite : (47 votes)
    54 %
    very small lab-grown diamond : (7 votes)
    8 %
    other : (15 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 2
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    612 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Has she expressed more favor toward one stone or another?  All have their plusses and minuses.

    All things considered – would the natural mined diamond and the lab created diamond be in your budget at the size she likes?  If not, you have your answer right there.  If that is the only C she has really mentioned in concrete terms (besides shape which is vague with lots of options and varying cut qualities) I would not skimp on that one in favor of a particular stone.

    • This reply was modified 1 year, 10 months ago by  Consultette.
    Post # 3
    Member
    470 posts
    Helper bee

    When you say “tight budget”, what do you mean?  As tight for some, is not tight for others.  Probably need to tell us a price bracket to get a better idea 🙂

    Post # 4
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    1437 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    The fact that she’s said that if she gets moissanite, she’ll want to pass it off as a diamond, says to me that she wants a diamond.

    Since she likes warmer colored diamonds and doesn’t seem to mind inclusions, if I were you, I’d check out some pawn shops and estate sales. You can find some really great deals there.

    Good luck and congrats!

    Post # 5
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    1032 posts
    Bumble bee

    i have a Diamond engagement ring. I have 2 carat  moissonite earrings. My friends all thought My earrings were the real deal. When I told them they were moissinites they were in denial. The research that I did suggested not to go over 1ct and they’ll think its a high end diamond. 

    Post # 6
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    5019 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2050

    Limousine: If her main concern is carats, I think moissanite might be your best bet. But, did you mean she does NOT want to pass a moissanite off as a diamond? Because if she’s opposed to diamonds for humanitarian reasons, it doesn’t make any sense to try to pass something off as one. That would be like someone from PETA wearing fake fur but telling people “I loves me some mink, isn’t this baby gorgeous?”

    Post # 7
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    273 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2025

    Limousine:  If “sparkly” is important, I would say the cut is more important than carat. Better the cut, the better it reflects light (hence the sparkle). Also, round diamonds face up bigger than cushion so if size matters, I would say go for a round. Good luck!

    Post # 8
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    8565 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I recommend moissanite since your budget is tight and for ethical reasons. You can get a nice size stone that will last forever and a gorgeous setting for a fraction of what even a low quality diamond would cost. I recommend moissaniteco.com 

    Post # 9
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    7753 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    If she wants a diamond, get her a diamond. I would honestly ebay a certified stone/ring or check pawn shops and gold dealers/estate sellers. Whats your budget? If she’s going to pretend her moissy is a diamond I would just spare her having to lie and get her the real deal. Lying is no fun.

    Post # 10
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    174 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    If you are worried at how sparkly the diamond is I would make cut the highest priority on the list. the cut determines how well light bounces around the stone and even if you have lower color and clarity it will really sparkle!! If she is down with the warmer stone that will save you a lot as well!

     

    i would look at Brilliant Earth. You can find beautiful ideal cut .5 carat loose diamonds starting around $1,500 (not terrible for a real diamond) and it goes up from there. They also pride themselves on ethical business practices and conflict free diamonds. you can check out their information pages to see if you are interested. 

    • This reply was modified 1 year, 10 months ago by  Nimmle02.
    • This reply was modified 1 year, 10 months ago by  Nimmle02.
    Post # 12
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    8565 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I also wanted to add that I had a 1.51 carat diamond and switched it out with a 1.5 carat old european cut moissanite. I love the moissanite so much more than my diamond. They are seriously amazing! The first picture is of my diamond and the other two are my oec moissy.

    Post # 13
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    129 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2006

    Limousine:  there is a newer moissanite gem called an Amora gem. You can get an ideal cut D IF if you wanted to! I just got one after many many moissanites. It’s colorless whereas moissanite always is slightly yellow.. Which is ugly on cloudy days. Go to amoragem.com to learn about it and goldandgems.com search Amora gem to buy. Quantities are limited.

    Post # 14
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    411 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    bphi163:  This.

    I don’t know much about moissanite but if she wants sparkle, you need to go for the cut. I wanted sparkle. I wanted big. I wanted a diamond. I was lucky enough to get all three but the sparkle was what makes the ring if you ask me. I have what my friends like to call “a 10 table ring”. You can see it from 10 tables away – and it’s not because of the size, it’s because of the sparkle. I honestly get compliments on it everyday. My cut is round brilliant. 

    Post # 15
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    8565 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    My moissy is actually whiter on cloudy days. 

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