Help keeping secret at bachelorette !

posted 2 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
3331 posts
Sugar bee

You could say you’re on antibiotics and can’t drink.

Or, you could order drinks that look alcoholic but aren’t (virgin cocktails, rum & coke that’s actually just coke, etc)

Or you could change the party so you’re doing something that doesn’t involve alchohol….got out for brunch & manicures?

Post # 3
42135 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Sugarsparkle45:  Don’t even try to pretend.. Tell them you are on antibiotics and are not allowed to drink.

Post # 4
2197 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Sugarsparkle45:  I was so sick during my 7th week of pregnancy, there was no hiding for me. If you can manage to, more power to you! I think trying to pass off fake drinks won’t work at a bachelorette dinner. Too many people will be trying to buy you drinks, and it will be very noticeable if you are sober. You can try the antibiotic trick, but know they might be on to you. 

Post # 5
2501 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Sugarsparkle45:  I would say antibiotics or that you are dieting/baselining ( trendy with cross fitters lol) Most people really won’t care or give it a second thought 


Post # 6
3360 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Depending on your group, they might see right through the antibiotics excuse (I’ve found that with younger friends or men, they don’t think twice about it, but older female friends – around my age, near 30 – will suspect that it really means you’re pregnant).  With what you have planned, I would try to get there a little early and talk to your waiter/waitress (or slip off to the bathroom and pull them aside) to explain that you’re pregnant but haven’t told yet, so please bring all your drinks “virgin” throughout the night.  Then when you get back to the house, drink beer – you can fake sip until you can go to the bathroom, then just dump it down the sink and fill it with water.

The other option is to confide in a close friend who can help you hide it – if you think your friends will want to order you drinks and shots and stuff, pretend to sip then discreetly slip them to your friend (it’s especially easy to do this once everyone gets a few drinks into them, because they won’t be very observant).


Post # 7
285 posts
Helper bee

I would change the event to something that doesn’t revolve around drinking. I don’t know about your friends, but if I told my girls that I was on antibiotics and couldn’t drink they would immidiately think I was pregnant and grill me about it.

You can change it by telling the host that you want to invite your Mom or a relative that is underage and it would be better to do lunch and a spa day.

Otherwise, I would suggest confiding in one of your friends (maybe your MOH?) and have them be in charge of all of your drinks. This way you can drink a lot of “rum and coke” and your MOH can buy them for you or swap out whatever anyone else buys for you. Going in without a confidant will be tiresome and difficult. Even if you tell the waiter and get nothing but virgin drinks, whoever picks up your bill is going to notice and you’ll be worried about it all night.


Post # 8
264 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Sugarsparkle45:  Say you’re taking amoxicillin for an ear infection. Defini5ely can’t drink and its a legit excuse 🙂 

Post # 9
1116 posts
Bumble bee

Sugarsparkle45:  I’d worry about faking drinking because a lot of people will want to buy you drinks and the serving staff may struggle to know when someone is buying a drink for you so you may end up accidentally drinking and people may notice that the cost of buying you a drink isn’t enough or the staff would have to charge alcohol prices for soft drinks etc. Either tell them it’s antibiotics or a different medication (and make it an embarrasing condition becasue who would make up something embarrassing) or tell them the truth.

Post # 10
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

cpick:  +1 I think with it being YOUR bachelorette, I’d go with a medication excuse or, even better, confide in a friend so she can back you up. People are going to want to buy you drinks.

Post # 11
1356 posts
Bumble bee

Would you normally have a few drinks?  I think its going to be really hard to hide in this situation.  The fact you’re just sitting at dinner and then at someone’s house might be even worse than out at a bar or club b/c people are going to be more aware of what you are doing.  I think your best bet is to confide with your closest friend and they can swap you drinks or drink yours for you, etc.

Post # 12
4402 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree with PPs — I’d tell your closest buddy the truth, so that she knows what’s up and can help deflect any nosy questions. And I wouldn’t hesitate to make up some story to tell everyone else — that you’re taking amoxicillin for an ear infection is a good idea. And yeah, if you’d like to, maybe have it changed to a daytime event that isn’t so drinking-dependent? The MOH or whoever can just email everuone & say, “Bride has a ear infection & can’t drink; we’re getting brunch instead!” Then you don’t have to deal with a million questions.

Post # 14
612 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I really like stillme‘s idea.  

Whenever I’m not drinking (and legitimately on antibiotics – kidney problems!) my friends always assume either I am pregnant or trying to get sober.

Her idea is something quick, casual to say, and easy to still get everyone excited about.  I also like the idea of saying you are trying to make sure you can fit into your wedding dress. 

Post # 15
111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I went to a bachelorette and I was pregnant at 11 wks but didn’t want to tell the girls… So I told them I was on antibiotics. some suspected i was pregnant but nobody pushed me to drink. I did have a cough then so people seemed to believe it.

you can say you’re on antibiotics and have a bladder infection.

i wouldnt do the fake drinking because someone will surely make you a drink and it’d be hard to pass on that.

good luck!

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