Post # 1
I am planning a wedding from four states away from my venue. I have 8 bridesmaids and msot of them are relatives. My mom convinced me to have a big wedding and a big wedding party to include all sister in laws (I am one of six kids) and my sisters as well as the friends I had originally intented. Now my mom is recovering from a major surgery (she is ok) and is absent from plans. I am driving myself nuts trying to plan this from four states aways away. She had promised me support but the surgery came up last minute! My wedding is in May and there is so much left to be done. All sisters who live in that city have kids and are no help. Any ideas?????
Post # 3
If it is becoming so overwhelming, maybe you should hire a coordinator?
Post # 5
Then do it your way. I understand what your mom wants, but the wedding is yours. She needs to recover and be healthy and the stress of a wedding may not help. Why dont you just scale everything down to where it would be easier on you or yes I agree hire a coordinator.
Post # 6
If you can swing a coordinator, I think that’s best. I’m trying my best to work it in our budget otherwise, wedding day is going to be too stressful. Our venue does not provide any help and I don’t want me family or friends setting up and taking down.
Post # 7
I wish at this point I could scale it down but the damage is done. I am going to call the venue this afternoon and tlak to thier wedding coordinator they use about price! Thank you ladies!
Post # 8
Mom kicked in and all is well! She actually has been working on her end of the deal for the past three days! Most of the wedding stuff that needs to be done right now is done and I feel SOOOO MUCH BETTER!
Post # 9
Sorry to hear that you’re upset but I think you’ll find that there isn’t much wedding stuff you can get done right now. My wedding is at the beginning of April and just this past week things actually started getting done. Also, don’t expect help from anyone. Lots of people will tell you they’ll help and they just drag their feet. So what I’ve done is taken my to do list and worked on a few items each day. For example, yesterday I ran to Hobby Lobby and picked up the guest sign-in book pen and some pens that I plan to use to address the invitations when they arrive in the mail any day now. I also, picked up a glass container I plan to use on the sweets table. I dabbled a bit with the wording for our programs. Today I got a few more things crossed off my list. I was stressed out like you about two months ago because I felt like nothing was getting done and no one was helping me. So take it one day at a time and get done what you can. Give your FI one or two things to work on like groomsmen gifts, songs you want the DJ/Band to play. My bridesmaids aren’t helping me with any tasks all I’ve asked them to do is get their dress and shoes. So don’t worry about them being out of state. You’ll be fine