Post # 1
So…..my DH is not circumcised, and now we are expecting a baby boy in the fall.
I kind of think that the son should ‘match’ the Dad for explanation purposes, kid asking why he’s different, etc…….and even though we haven’t had many conversations about it I know my DH doesn’t want to circumcise.
But…..*sigh*…..I don’t really like it uncircumcised! I mean I’ve gotten used to my DH because it’s what it is, but it’s not my preference.
Post # 3
I would check out all the anti-circumcision info online you can, testimonials of circumcisions gone wrong (there are plenty) and anything else to be more educated. It helps to try and make these decisions based more on fact and research than opinion and emotion.
Post # 4
@Sunshine09: This issue could potentially blow up. I agree that I would want my son to match my FI, and that I would leave the decision up to him.
Here is a past thread I made on this issue, before realizing it would blow up 😛 http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/did-you-circumcise-your-son#axzz2WapPND00
Post # 5
Maybe you should have a more serious talk with your husband about your reasons for wanting circumsision before you talk yourself out of it. I think it makes a lot of sense to want your son to match his dad. There are some very valid reasons for it as well (seriously decreased risk of UTI’s).
I think once you know where he stands you’ll be more confident your collective choice to circumsise or not.
Post # 6
I would speak with your DH and come up with what you both want to do. This is a very personal decision that you both should make and not a bunch strangers on the interent can tell you what to do. There are those for and those against.
Post # 7
I’m not sure how to say this without sounding rude. I don’t think you should alter your son based on personal preference of cosmetic issues. This isn’t about religion or health, you just think his penis would look nicer without a foreskin. Let him decide for himself, it’s his body. If he wants to, or, although unlikely, needs to be circumcised, that option is there for him. But being uncircumcised after it’s done isn’t possible. Also, circumcision is becoming far less common, so girls your son’s age, when he is ready to have sex, won’t even see an uncircumcised penis as something to get used to, or even something uncommon. As far as health benefits, as long as your dh teaches him to clean himself properly, there is no increased risk of infection. Some people will cite studies that show slightly lower rates of std transmission in circumcised men. However, with proper condom use, there is no difference, and I’m sure you wouldn’t teach your son that circumcision or no circumcision is the deciding factor when it comes to using protection.
Post # 8
@MrsPanda99: Wow that did blow up! I see that was very recent too, actually it was helpful, thanks
Post # 9
There are very good reasons not to circumcise. Besides the obvious risk during the actual procedure, there is significant evidence to show that circumcision can lead to impotence and loss of sensitivity later on. Not only that, but if the child is taught how to clean himself properly, there’s no higher risk of infection (UTIs are rare in males unless they have a hygiene problem or a physiological defect). There’s a lot of good research out there, go and read all of it before making a decision. And by research, I don’t mean some shithead with a website, I mean actual peer-reviewed and published studies. Talk to your doctor too, he/she can point you in the direction of some good information.
Post # 10
@Sunshine09: Yes, it sure did. Not my intention at all. I didn’t realize it was so controversial and that people get so bent out of shape about it (but they do). Before people started getting rude, there was a good discussion going. It’s only when people don’t respect other’s opinions (even if they disagree) that trouble starts.
Post # 11
@Laurenplusalex: +1 to everything you said, especially the part about circumcision becoming less common. The only penis I’m acquainted with (FI’s) isn’t circumcised, and I have no complaints, because FI was taught proper hygiene.
Post # 12
Ok – let me ask this before it goes crazy…….
I much like anyone else does not want to inflict un-necessary pain on my newborn. Period. BUT, as an adult – ladies, do you care if it’s cut or not? Because that’s what I’m really thinking about. Yes pure and simple esthetics.
Post # 13
i just want to add that my DH is not circumsized and he’s never had any issues because of it. i know that’s not something you brought up OP but i wanted to mention it just in case it’s in the back of your mind.
Post # 14
For anyone that is pro-circumcision, watch this lecture. It’s about 30 minutes, I am all about pro-choice, but a lot of people aren’t informed the whole truth before hand.
Post # 15
@Phamnomenon: mine too. He’s Cuban and it’s not done there very often. He is happy with his parents’ choice and says he can’t imagine the discomfort of having the most sensitive part of his bodin uncovered and unprotected. If anything, I was relieved that he felt that way because I already had decided I would prefer not to circumcise.
i have no problem with those who choose differently, it’s a very personal choice, I just think that it’s worth looking into and developing an opinion about for yourself. And if that opinion is different than mine, that’s fine 🙂
Post # 16
@Sunshine09: Big, small, short, long, circumcised, or au natural….I’ve never run across one I didn’t like, that didn’t have it’s own style because the man it was attached to was a fascinating, intelligent, and loving person…..focus on that and not the foreskin.