Post # 1
I am a waiting bee who has her 2 year relationship anniversary next weekend and while I couldn’t be more chuffed that I’m going to be celebrating another annual milestone with my wonderful, wonderful man, I don’t get any vibes or hints from him that there will be a ring presenting itself (although I remain hopelessly hopeful!).
Generally speaking he isn’t forthcoming with suggestions or hints that its about to happen he has said recently “A ring isn’t a million miles off” and “It (a wedding) may be closer than you think” Ugh. talk about not giving anything away!
I know it sounds petty but now I am waiting- marriage is something that I feel SO ready for, when theses occasions come up – Xmas, birthdays, trips etc… I now wonder if this will be the time he gets down on one knee. It doesn’t help that I also have friends/family speculating that they think “it” should be soon (talk about pressure!) but the problem with this is that it now spoils what should be lovely occasions because I get disappointed that he didn’t pull out a ring and I feel bad about that!
Its my own problem, the poor soul doesn’t fail to impress me when we do celebrate an occassion, he always buys me gorgeous jewellery/flowers/meals at fantastic resturaunt so I want to enjoy them – particually next week- without feeling like a b*tch because I was expecting “more”…
Post # 3
I thought that way about my FI around the 2 year mark…and then I found out he was actively searching online to meet someone. Now not saying that that is your situation AT ALL but just saying don’t necessarily be hasty in wanting the whole marriage thing. I was with my previous BF for 4 years before breaking up with him to be with my FI.
Anyways, sometimes it just takes a little longer to really get to know someone. In my case, I found this whole other side of my FI that we needed to address before we could figure out that we really were perfect for each other. And I was definitely in your seat. I was ready for him to pop the question after like 6 months cuz I knew he was the one. By the time 2 years rolled around, I was itching like crazy for a ring. I didn’t know it at the time but neither of us were really ready to take that jump. He needed to figure some things out and I needed to learn how to assert myself and not let him walk all over me. We both discovered communication skills with each other that we didn’t have after only 2 years. In the end, it will make our relationship and marriage so much better.
Basically, I say enjoy the time you have with each other now and work on building the best and most honest relationship you can. Get to know the good and bad sides of each other and determine if you want to share a life with each side. I think that if you focus on how wonderful being with him now is then maybe he’ll pick up on it and finally get the hint. But for now, take advantage of him still trying to court you!
Post # 4
I understand how you feel! A lot of guys don’t propose on the big milestone events though, since they know that you are probably expecting it!
Post # 5
I’m about to celebrate my 6 year anniversary soon and still no ring.
Sooooo…be glad it hasn’t been that long? Haha…I know that that doesn’t make a difference though. When you’re waiting it sucks no matter how long.
Just remind yourself you’d rather be with him as a girlfriend than not with him at all. And have a great time on your anniversary. 🙂