Post # 1
We’re just about to book our venue (both ceremony and reception at the same place). The reception area has a large terrace attached that we just LOVED (photo below), and we wanted to exchange vows at the end of the terrace, with the water as a backdrop. Our ceremony will probably last 5-10 minutes. The pros of this arrangement are that it would be a beautiful setting, unique, and save about $3000. The cons are that the guests would have to walk through the reception space to get to the terrace, and the coordinator at the hotel said that the space would accommodate only 49 chairs and 7 cocktail tables. We are planning on having 200 guests, so a lot of people would be standing. I’ve never stood during a wedding ceremony, but I’ve also never been to one that’s as short as ours, so I’m not sure if it’s proper. How would you guys feel about standing during a ceremony? I am planning on emailing the coordinator back and asking about replacing the tables with more chairs, but do you guys have any creative ideas for ceremony arrangements? Or should we just ditch the idea and have the ceremony by the pool, which for us is a less-than-ideal setting? Thanks! [attachment=382579,49741]
Post # 3
i would be perfectly fine standing. we did this for my sister’s wedding! she just provided chairs for the older guests and it worked out fine 🙂
Post # 4
I don’t think it’s fair to make guests stand. You may think that the ceremony will “only” last 5 to 10 minutes, but some of your guests will be probably get there 30+ minutes before your ceremony start time.
Post # 5
I picked stick to the usual, because although I would not mind standing for 5-10 minutes, it will end up being much longer than that as people get there early, procession/recession, etc. so they’re going to end up standing for a while.
Post # 6
I personally wouldn’t mind standing. I think it is important to provide seating for those who need it though.
But know, that if people see they will be standing for the ceremony, they may sit at tables in the reception area till the ceremony begins.
Post # 7
Oh and BTW, the venue looks beautiful!!!
Post # 8
I wouldn’t want to stand that long either. Like others said, guests get there early, and you never know if the ceremony will go over, plus girls not planning to stand might be wearing uncomfy heals. Normally I’d say do what you want because you should have a beautiful ceremony, but from the guests viewpoint I dislike the standing idea.
Post # 9
It’s beautiful and $3000 is not a small amount. Just be sure that the limited seats are reserved for seniors, handicapped, and those with small children.
Post # 10
Like the others said, even though your ceremony will only be 10 mins, it’ll be longer for everything else, like people showing up early, or maybe a late start, etc. I personally don’t mind standing, but I think others might have a problem. Maybe don’t do the cocktail tables and just use chairs! The venue is too beautiful to change location!
Post # 11
I wouldn’t mind standing, but if the space only accomodates about 50 people seated, will 200 people comfortably fit standing? Will everyone get a good view? I would be upset if I was standing in the back and unable to see the ceremony.
Post # 12
I love this! How pretty is that and the fact that you get so save money is even more awesome!
I would put reserved on the chairs so that if you have anyone who is older or can’t stand there, they would have a place to be seated.
As long as you keep it short and sweet, no one is going to mind. Maybe you should have the MOH or your folks or his put out the word so that if someone was thinking of wearing their brand new 5 inch heals because they would only be walking or standing a few min will know not to use your wedding to break them in.
Post # 13
Thanks for your input ladies … yeah, I am unsure about the standing thing and the proximity to the reception area, but we were planning on having a cocktail thing on the terrace in between the ceremony and dinner anyways, so we figured we could make our vows with the guests already in the cocktail configuration, if that makes any sense … I mean, people usually stand during the cocktail hour anyways, right?
Post # 14
I recently attended a wedding where we all stood for the ceremony. When I first realized this was the plan, I’ll admit I was a bit annoyed at the thought of having to stand. But the ceremony was so short, and by standing we were all closer and kind of formed a half-moon around the couple — it ended up being so much more intimate than any other wedding I’ve been to (except for a Native American wedding, but that was an entirely different experience). Like others said, so long as you provide seating for elderly guests, I think it’s a great idea.
Post # 15
My parents went to a wedding this weekend that was under some oak trees on a golf course. they had 100 chairs and about 100 people standing. Mom said it really wasn’t all that bad and in fact didn’t seem odd to her.
Post # 16
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony: Catholic Church, Reception: Hotel Ballroom
I personally wouldn’t mind standing, but I think that elderly people/pregnant ladies/etc. should be given first priority at seating (which I’m sure you would do). I think the venue looks beautiful, btw! 🙂