Post # 1
All right ladies (and gents!) This is my plea to you. Help me bring back the spark, the excitement, the jazz of life! I need some stories and encouragement from Bees who have been together a while and have gotten through the post honeymooning stage. I want the romance back!
Let me explain. We’re not married, been together 3 1/2 years, living together for 2 1/2. I really believe we love each other completely and we’re absolutely wonderful for each other. He’s my best friend, my favourite lover, my everything. We don’t have a problem with our sex life, we don’t fight, everything seems ok. But that’s all it is. It’s ok. But we’ve lost the fun, the ‘let’s go out and do exciting things’ The adventure has dwindled and its killing me! I’m tired of shopping and cleaning and cooking and watching tv and occasionally entertaining the boys. This isn’t who I am! I’m really struggling because even though I really feel like I need to get out there and DO, when given the opportunity, I never know what do actually do! I get this mental block and all I can think is “I just want to do ANYthing”
We need some fun couple things, a way to get out of the house and using our brains together! I fear boredom is slowly driving us crazy together and it’s not good!
Post # 3
@lalalyanne: hmm I don’t know where you live but there are groupon type sites for couples, like howaboutwe.com. That could give you some ideas. I have a similar situation with my DH. He’s more introverted than me and I’m the one who has to do all the social planning for the most part. I’ve told him that I need him to initiate sometimes. He follows through sometimes, and it’s nice when he does make the effort!
Post # 4
@sept22insf: Thanks!! I’ll look into that 🙂 I live in a smallish city but even some ideas would be good! I want to do something creative and fun. I want to surprise him for once instead of the same old “I dunno” He would be happy to play video games or watch tv with me so sometimes it’s hard to be the one to come up with things all the time, I feel ya on that!
Post # 5
My fiance and I go on food adventures! One of us will find a restaurant that looks cool, and we’ll take a drive out to try it. Sometimes, we find a really cool place that’s totally off the beaten path. Sometimes, we end up getting McDonalds afterwards because the food was so bad. But that’s ok! It’s time alone in the car to just chat, and it’s a fun way to get out and explore.
Post # 6
@lalalyanne: Yes i second Groupon or Living Social! great sites.
It is hard if you live in a small town, im roughly an hour away from Los Angeles so if I really want to something I can always find something down there.
Maybe take a small trip?
Post # 7
Why not go away for a weekend or do something fun together? I live near Baltimore and Otakon (an anime convention) is this weekend. I’ve thought about doing that, we go into DC for Cherry Blossom Festival, I take him to the Air & Space Museum (even though I completely hate it) and in turn he lets me drag him to the botanical garden (that he completely hates, haha); We try new restaurants, still go to the movies when there’s something worth going for, and we have taken day trips to the ocean to walk around, eat cotton candy and kill each other at bumper cars. We also go bowling and I am desperate to see my 6 foot tall man smack a tiny blue mini golf ball at a windmill sometime. xD He thinks mini golf is “lame” but I totally want to go anyway. Also, guys (at least mine and my friend’s DH) like manicures and massages. Do a couples spa day.
If money is a thing, I do groupon stuff (cruises on the Potomac River for like $30 for both of us with wine or champagne or whatever), or even just a picnic and a nice walk in a local park. Idk where you live, but even when I lived in the middle of BF nowhere I’d go out to local pubs and play pool with friends (before FI) or hike in the mountains (I lived in Colorado) or go to local wine/chocolate tastings or art shows or whatever. The Chamber of Commerce and Parks and Recreation where you live should have events. There is also a moose lodge up the street from us and it’s totally cool to pop in and hang with the older folks who like to boogie down to Frank Sinatra. Swing dance is what’s up!
ETA: We also have those paint your own pottery places around here and those are really fun! I haven’t been with FI yet but he wants to go so we can paint something cool for our wedding to start off our new life with. There are also public concerts by the water on weekend evenings in the summer here where bands just set up in the street and you can get ice cream and listen and dance. And apart from the ice cream it’s totally free!