Post # 1
I am having a really hard time picking between 3 gorgeous outdoor venues. Here are some pics and pro-cons for each one.
I really want sparklers at the wedding and would like it to go late into the night, or at least not worry about having to end by midnight, but the best-priced venue with the nicest/most pleasant coordinator lacks those two things. What would you do?
pros – breathtaking, all night, no noise restrictions, can have sparklers.
cons – might be really hot in that area, unpleasant coordinator- virtually impossible to get a hold of, unserponsive and very standoffish, no bathrooms on site, must rent them for an additional 2k. (it’s the price that bothers me) most expensive by 2k.
pro – stunning, cheaper than the other 2 by 4-6k, really nice hosts and very professional and pleasant coordinator who is also the preferred venue florist and would give discounts on flowers and DOC services.
con – no sparklers, party done by midnight, windy road to get up there, may need to shuttle guests (potentially incovenient) other venues require valet- so costwise for shuttle vs parking – probably same.
pro – gorgeous, all night, no noise restrictions, has a cool door and frame which I like but the FI actually doesn’t. hmm.
con – no sparklers, probably have to use only their wine which is not our favorite. really pretty setting but I would actually prefer some more “architecture” as in a house in the background, not just vineyards and hills.
Thank you, laides!
Post # 3
Winery. Hands down.
The cons are pretty minimal for the winery. You can live without sparklers, and after the first few glasses, no one cares about the wine (and it’s really to be expected that they’ll use their own wine at their winery).
I believe that, as time goes on, you’d regret terribly working with someone who is difficult to reach (which is our problem with our venue, and it’s really becoming a source of frustration), or having to cut the party off early, or havin to rent bathrooms. Which I’m assuming means port-o-potties? Even the nicest kind of those are still port-o-potties, which means they’re going to be kind of smelly and confined. Do you want to hike your dress up to pee in one of those? I don’t think so.
The winery sounds all around like the best arrangment.
Post # 4
@ProfessorGirl: thanks for the input! I forgot to mention, though, I am also having a part of my bachelorette party at the winery already. Is it going to be weird to also have the wedding there?
Post # 5
Totally agreed with ProfessorGirl–there is no need to sign yourself up to work with someone you already know is unpleasant/unresponsive. And rental bathrooms, no matter how “nice”, are a big yuck.
I don’t see where having your bachelorette and wedding in the same place is really an issue, either.
Post # 6
@Frog E.: I think it’s fine, too. Might be nice to center two of your wedding events in a single place!
Post # 7
what about the cost difference? the winery is 10 or 12.5k depending on the setting, while the estate is only 6.5
Post # 8
Estate. It’s BEAUTIFUL, sounds lovely, and costs less than the other venues.
Post # 9
I voted Estate. I mean, all THREE are gorgeous, so when you really think about it, you can’t go wrong there. I think it will come down to what is more important to you?
Are you a Type A personality who will be driven crazy by not being able to get ahold of the coordinator (who, mind you, is unpleasant when you do get ahold of her)? Will you be able to handle it if you overhear a guest commenting on how everyone at your wedding hated the portable bathroom setup?
Are sparklers and a party that goes past midnight that important to you? Keep in mind, you might be exhausted by midnight and end up wishing you could just leave with your new hubby to enjoy your wedding night together. Plus, that extra 4-6k could be put towards other things that might help to make your wedding that much better.
Have you asked the Winery about how much it will be for their wine, or is it included in the package? Sometimes this can really kill your budget, because once you book them with the requirement that you have to use their wine, they can really take advantage of that. This could really suck, especially if you don’t like their wine to begin with! Also, the door/frame could be cool photo-moments, but overall, I think I would have to agree with your fiance and say they do look kinda awkward.
Anyways, I say book the Estate. It is beautiful. It is cheaper. It has a wonderful coordinator, which would be very important to me (you might be different) who will also do your flowers and DOC (eliminates the hassle of having to find a nice florist and DOC). And as long as you work with her to figure out a good system for shuttling, I don’t think guests would mind that much, especially once they see the gorgeous venue!
Good luck! Venue was also verry important to me and my fiance. I think I am more excited about the venue, than I am the dress! Lol.
Post # 10
Thank you for your insights, ladies! I am personally leaning toward the estate, but the FI’s family is worried about shuttle logistics (latecomers or people who want to leave early) while my Russian family is clamoring for an all-night party. Any other opinions or tips from experiences at other or your own weddings?
Post # 11
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I’m leaning towards the estate, but I have an important question: what is the rain backup plan for these places?
Post # 12
I’d choose either the estate or the winery. Honestly, I think the winery is prettier (and that’s what I voted for), but I like the price better at the estate. Plus if you go with the estate given the difference in price, maybe you could look into finding a place for an afterparty-that allows sparklers! 🙂
Post # 14
@LilDrAnya: the estate. if you feel the best connection with that coordinator it will mean a lot in the end. you will be dealing with them a lot up until your wedding day. you want it to be pleasant. the money you save can be put towards your honeymoon.
i was in the same boat as you when picking venues. there was a really nice one (the one my husband wanted) but the contact person seemed a bit too stuffy and arrogant. i could not have put up with that. no amount of sprinklers and one extra hour will make you happy when you are clashing with the coordinator.
they are all beautiful. good luck. let us know the winner.
Post # 15
The chance of rain in July in LA is minuscule, but I know for sure the estate owner has a huge tent we could put up in case of a freak occurrence.
Post # 16
This is tough. They all look beautiful, but I personally would want to physically hurt an unpleasant/unresponsive wedding coordinator (jk of course, but it would be irritating). I had a hell of a time with mine, which is one of the factors we cancelled my wedding at that venue. It was such a pain getting our deposit back… But like a PP said, I’m type A and expect good service when I pay good money… Sparklers are fun, but you’re not going to wake up the next day thinking, “My favorite part of the day was the sparklers.” You know? But if they are important to you, then maybe keep looking. It’s something that is very important to my best friend, and she just signed with a place that didn’t allow them either…
To me, the cons at the ranch outweigh the pros. The con of no architecture at the winery begs the question, is it in your budget to add architecture as in very expensive tents and paper lanterns and stuff? If it is possible and comfortable to do so, winery would be my top choice. If it’s not in your budget, the estate is gorgeous and people will deal with the windy roads. Three weddings I’ve been to recently had windy roads and while a little awkward to get there, once we did, people always found safe ways home. One provided a limo for an afterparty at their hotel because their venue closed at midnight, which was a BLAST and really made their wedding special. So that’s an option to combat the “out by midnight” thing. =) Good luck! Let us know which one you decide!