Post # 1
So I’m totally indecisive which is horrible for someone who wants to get married in 2012. Yes, this year.
We’ve been looking at a few places, some hotels, some other venues. For the hotels their packaging is pretty much how it is any day of the week/time of the year. But for other venues, it makes a considerable difference.
We are possibly fine with a Saturday or Sunday wedding, and there are still a few November ones left that are fine with us but will be a tight squeeze on our budget and our guest list and we’d much prefer the non-hotel venues.
However…. There are two dates we’re now looking at that might be worthy. Alas, they are non-weekend days.
December 20th, 2012 is a Thursday. It is the Thursday before the Christmas/Winter vacation. Many people will probably take that Friday off anyways to start traveling or what have you. So would it be terribly inconvenient to have a Thursday evening wedding on that night?
Alternatively, December 30th is a Sunday. However, it is the Sunday before NYE. Would you think having a wedding on that Sunday (which isn’t treated like a holiday, I don’t think, since technically Tuesday is the holiday) and then having a guest who would likely want to party all Monday night at a NYE party or something inconvenience guests? Or is this preferable to the 20th?
I suppose neither December date is exactly ideal but this way we have the venue we want, we can invite many more guests, and it is when we started dating so the month has more sentimental value for us. His family is all out of town and would have to travel anyways but no one has small children (we’re not having children at our wedding, we don’t think). My family and our friends are all local (we live in Alexandria, the wedding would be within 30 minutes tops of metro/driving of everyone).
Post # 3
I would not attend a wedding on the 20th before christmas. I usually have ran out of money and in a christmas craze by then.
I think all around November would be better, but 30th if it has to be December.
Post # 4
I personally think having a wedding any time between mid November and mid January is really inconvenient for many people. If you’re okay with not having a lot of people show, then go for it, but otherwise, it would be better to choose a date that is NOT in the middle of holiday season, regardless of the day of the week.
Post # 5
Out of all three options, I voted for November (though, of course, avoid Thanksgiving weekend). People that I know tend to be VERY busy in December, between holiday shopping, office parties/gatherings, family vacations, and holidays (it seems like almost all faiths have something in December). Travel tends to be quite pricey around the December dates you selected. In December, the first week of the month tends to be quite a bit cheaper and it skyrockets towards the end. I don’t know how the weather is in your area, but consider travel delays because of weather as well. I’m inclined to think that November will have less travel problems than December. Since you don’t want kids at your wedding, it may be tough for guests to find a sitter during December as sitters will be traveling home during school breaks (college-aged sitters) or they will be busy with their own plans.
Oh, and around our area, December 20 will have horrible traffic being that it is a weekday (commuters) and people are out doing last minute shopping.
Post # 6
I would do a December 30th wedding since a lot of people take the 31st off anyways or only go to work for 4 hours tops they can just plan a weekend of late nights and partying. Dont expect many extravagent gifts or a ton of guests because everyone has a tight budget at that time of year.
Post # 7
i wouldn’t go to a wedding on the 20th or 30th becuase i know so many people will be busy with christmas and NYE stuff. i’d say look for a date earlier in december or later in january.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t go with either date, the times around the holidays are just too hectic. If you are set on picking one of those, I’d go with December 30th.
I think one of the important things we all have to ask ourselves when picking anything related to a wedding, but especially the date, is what is most important for us to feel on that day. Is it most important to feel like we’re surrounded by as many family and friends as possible? Better go with a date that is pretty convenient for most. Is it most important to feel like we had an intimate ceremony that was very personal? Probably okay to go with an unusual mid-week day. Is it really important you feel like you got an awesome deal for your money? That might trump some other things and push you to a non-traditional day.
Etc etc. You could go on and on. But instead of picking what you want, I’ve read advice to pick what you want to feel, and then base key decisions off of that. Hope that helps!
Post # 9
I definitely would not go to a weddng on December 20. I’m usually back with my family for the holidays, and I don’t give that up.
Being that December 30 is a Sunday and the holiday is a Tuesday, I probably wouldn’t do that either, because it would either force me to take another day off right after the holidays (Monday) or be miserable at work the next day (tired, possibly hungover).
And November, of course, you have to be careful around Thanksgiving, because people travel a lot then too, and may already have their holiday plans made. I know personally I have basically every weekend in November and December filled already…
Post # 10
I chose November.
I would think that even though you could invite more people in December, more people would decline due to the holiday season, so it would be a wash.
Post # 11
I’d do it December 30th for sure. Anything pre-Christmas would be a no-go for me! Even work holiday parties are usually in November. I find that before Christmas people are the busiest and have the fewest available nights (speaking as a girl with a December birthday). 🙂
Post # 12
i know gifts aren’t important but in december most people’s budgets are washed out from all the holidays parties, gifts, etc plus adding a wedding gift on top.
Post # 13
November – personally, I get really annoyed with weddings that assume that I can or will take time off work.