Post # 1
i really want to be team green but Darling Husband is such a planner and he really wants to find out the gender! What reasons did you have to,be team green? I think it’s one of the few surprises in life and would be really exciting and helpful to get through labor.
What were you reasons and did you regret it at all?
Post # 3
@august05: Haven’t done it myself yet but know I’d be team green too, don’t fancy going the pain of labour with no surprise to look forward to at the end
Post # 4
I wanted to be Team Green for the surprise and because I wanted to get practical, gender neutral gifts that we could reuse for future babies, instead of tons of clothes at my shower.
However, I eventually gave in to Darling Husband and we found out. We couldn’t keep the secret from people so once we knew, everyone knew. I got tons of clothes.
But perhaps you can use my argument to appeal to your DH’s practical side?
Post # 5
Why does it matter what gender the baby is? Just buy gender neutral stuff.
Post # 6
@iheartnerds: my thoughts exactly. We are planning on a few kids and I’d like to be able to get some reusable fairly neutral items. My fears are we would get a bunch of clothes!!
@peachacid: that is what I think too, but Darling Husband gets stressed out by the unknown….it’s one of ur big differences. I’m hoping I can convince him it doesnt matter in the end.
Post # 7
@peachacid: Really did you just say that? To some people finding out the gender of baby is huge deal.
Op, you and your Darling Husband need to sit down and talk about this. I know for my Darling Husband and I, I wanted to find out he didn’t. I explained to him it is just plain easier to figure out what to do with the nursery to clothes if we knew. We talked about it several times and we did find out and we had a boy.
Post # 8
@Sassygrn: yep, we are planning on having a discussion in a few weeks as we are still pretry early. It was funny because that was the number 2 question we were asked when we told our folks, will you find out what your having?…that’s what brought it up for us.
Post # 9
Oh how i wish, my Fiance is toooo nosy for that. It killed him to know both times lol
Post # 10
@august05: We are team green, for exactly the reasons @iheartnerds said. We live in a house that is nearly 100 years old, so our closets were built before people had all of the stuff that we have in the modern day. I hate the idea of having a closet filled with clothes the baby may never wear! I think you are more likely to receive practical items than clothes (as gifts) since buying team green clothes is not nearly as fun as little boy/girl clothes. I really don’t want a pink or blue nursery so it would not make a difference to the nursery at all.
I totally understand why people would want to find out as soon as possible, and I can tell you that us team greens are definitely in the minority! My Darling Husband was actually the one who was adamant about being team green (I would probably find out if it were up to me – just because I’m nosy and terrible with surprises!). I don’t usually give in to him, but he was able to change my mind with the reasons above!
Post # 11
1. Planning a gender neutral nursery is just as easy as planning a gender specific one & buying gender neutral gear makes it easier to use for future children!
2. You actually get stuff off your registry!!! Seriously! I’ve done both & you can talk to the moms who have already had their babies…. when you know the gender the majority of your gifts are clothes in gender specific colors & desgins. Sometimes, like with my first, they aren’t even size/season appropriate so they end up being almost wasted.=/ I was so happy to get things we actually needed & wanted.
3. I’m a pretty firm believer it helps minimize gender disappointment b/c it’s much more rare you ask someone holding their new baby, just experiencing this absolutely undescribably amazing moment & they say they kinda were hoping for the other sex…. Despite it not being talked about, I’ve heard from quite a few parents that one or the other had gender disappointment upon finding out at their anatomy scan.
4. I’ve talked to maternity nurses that all agreed births where the sex isn’t known before delivery always hold this anticipation that isn’t there when it’s known… yes, all biths are exciting but these are just different
5. It’s great having something just between the two of you in that moment! Having Darling Husband tell me “it’s a girl” was one of the most awesome feelings ever!
I am SO glad we went team green!
Post # 12
I think the most rational reason is so that the stuff you get for the newborn stage is neutral and can more easily be re-used with additional children.
Post # 13
@runsyellowlites: I love all of these! Thank you for posting – so nice to hear from team green post baby!
Post # 14
I understand you both want to be on board but if he wants to know the sex, he should know the sex, That doesn’t mean he has to tell you, but he did help make the baby, if he wants to know, let him know, just don’t let him tell you.
Post # 15
these are all what I as looking for!! I have a feeling he will be on board with me once I explain why I don’t want to know. And if I tell him he gets to announce it at the end he may go for that as well. I am usually the one in the relationship that is pretty easy going, while he plans and frets. But if I tell him I feel strongly about something we can usually come to an agreement. I think he hasn’t thought about it as much as I have and once I present my case he may think it’s a great idea.
@Hyperventilate: knowing my Darling Husband there is no way he wouldn’t let the info slip. He is the worst secret Keeper! Lol
Post # 16
@Hyperventilate: That definitely won’t remedy the why behind him wanting to know… he STILL won’t be able to “plan” or buy gender specific items AND he’s more likely to accidentally spill the beans to her. Some do do this, but it’s not common at all.