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First, I think you are super sweet for wanting to do this...but. I don't know your guy so maybe this is perfect for him, but I kind of think you should let the bachelor weekend be the bachelor weekend. It's kind of his alone time with his boys, and I would let this be 'their thing'. This is about his friends doing something for him - buying the snacks, the shots, embarrassing him, etc.!
i think if you are going to suprise him, my opinion would be to do something quiet and low key and not include the other men.
Wow, you're an awesome bride. I really like the ideas that you have.
What if you get t-shirts made for them. Or a CD with getting ready music. Guys don't think of that, but it's fun to listen to music while getting ready to head out.
These ideas are so cute! I love that you're so supportive of his 'bachelor weekend.' I don't know your FI and your relationship, so he may love all these surprises. But my first instinct says since it is HIS weekend with his guys, maybe doing something more discrete but still very loving, like the extra cash at the casino, may be the way to go. I know as women, we would love all of the surprise you came up with because they are so sweet, but I don't know how it would go over with a bunch of men on a guys' weekend.
Those are awesome ideas and so so awesome ... but ... I'm slightly with Circus Peanut that they might be a little too much ... I sent a check to one of his groomsmen to buy some alcohol with and make sure he knew it was from me (they were tailgating for a football game so I knew they would be drinking all day long) ... and they were all psyched.
He knew it was from me and told anyone who cared at all ... but for the most part the other boys just gave him crap and/or barely even noticed .... so with that said I think the best idea is buying the shot/round of drinks at the bar .... and I also like the idea of the "welcome bag" , but I would do just one for your fiance ... tell him to open it on the plane/car or once he gets to the hotel/place he is staying.
Great ideas! Have fun with it, but don't go too overboard cause I guarantee he'll just be drunk the whole time!!
Thanks for everyone's thoughts and comments. I guess I should have clarified I definitely don't plan on doing ALL of the things I mentioned - I was just brainstorming for the best one or two ideas. I'll certainly take into consideration the fact that it's his weekend, but I'm friends with all of the guys that are going, so I don't think he/they would mind me butting in once or twice.
i think having a bar tab would be the coolest one. I'm not sure my guy would like the other ones - they might embarrass him and ruin the masculinity of the event. But lining up a round of shots ahead of time sounds kind of cool.
I do have to say you are very thoughtful, but at the same time I agree that you should let his boys weekend be his boys weekend. Maybe you could do something when he gets home to welcome him home and let him know you hope he had a good time and you missed him, but I think part of the bachelor weekend is to not really think about/talk about the women in their lives!
Honestly...While I think this is sweet it's can be perceived as being overbearing. Not trying to be mean or anything b/c if it was the other way around I would love my finace to surprise me on my girls trip. All the ladies would say aww he is so sweet but men are a little different.
I think your ideas are awesome! And you obviously know your FI so you know he would'nt mind! Guys are gonna tease regardless if you do something or nothing and honestly my fiance's friends might tease if I do something like that but they also would be using all the stuff! Guys are just like that!
I think your ideas are really sweet! I think the envelope of cash is the best idea... I would do something more for him than for him and the guys. He'll already be getting ragged on enough most likely, I don't know if its even necessary for you to do something to add to it!
Your ideas are really nice and thoughtful, but my first inclination is the same as some of the others here, to let the boys' weekend be the boys' weekend.
If you're sure that this would be a welcome thing, I would do the cash envelope for the casino.
I would only do one thing, and that would be the welcome bag. And then just let the guys have their time the rest of the weekend.
A bag with nice note would be nice, but agree with many others, I would say let the guys take care of him for the rest of the things.
I agree with PPs. I think your intentions are in the right place, but I think you should let it be a boys' weekend.
I thought your ideas were awesome. I liked the shot idea the best with maybe a card that could accompany the shots to your FI, so it wouldn't be "announced" by the bartender. I also liked the idea of the hangover and snack bags. I would do one for FI and have it in his room waiting for him, with his favorite bar time snacks, of course!
i agree with some of the others, i know my fi loves me and loves having me around... but for his bachelor party he wanted to be with his boys. maybe you could sneak an envelope full of cash in his suitcase and write a nice note about how you want him to spend it in the casino and have a good time?
Let them have their own weekend together. It is healthy to do things seperately.
I agree. Let them do their own thing. I'd be annoyed if my husband tried to surprise me on my bachelorette weekend. I expect him to leave me completely alone while I'm out with the girls!!! That's the point I think!
I agree with PPs as well. If you HAVE to do something, I think either giving one of the guys some cash for a round of drinks or packing it in your FI's suitcase is the way to go. It's cool and thoughtful, without being embarassing or over the top.
I LOVE the idea of sending them a round of shots to their table. I think its simple and fun. It shows you are thinking about them and supporting their night of fun. I also think having the Best Man deliver some extra casino money is a good fun way of supporting their trip.
The Welcome Bags I agree would be a little too much. Its their weeeknd to be guys, they probably don't want chocolates on their pillow!
The jumbo screen message could be really embarassing for him. Kinda like the kid who gets a note from his mom in his lunch box.
I think if you do something, his friends will NEVER let him hear the end of it. For his sake, the best thing you can do is let him just enjoy the weekend with his buddies and don't get involved- even if your intentions are good.
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OK, don't worry, I'm not planning on showing up unannounced and chaperoning or anything :)
My FI and 7 or so of his buddies are taking a long weekend to go to his home city for some bonding, drinking, etc., and I'm trying to think of some surprises for them (both sweet and funny/embarassing). Things that I know are on the schedule are a hockey game, strip club, casino, and I'm sure lots of eating and drinking. I'm staying away from the strip club(!) but I had some fun ideas of how to participate in some of the other events. Let me know if you have any other good ideas (I might just do one thing, or I might do several).
- Put together some 'welcome bags' for their hotels (complete with Red Bulls, pillow mints, snacks, hangover treatments, etc.).
- Arrange for a round of shots to be delivered to their table at dinner or a bar/club. Would have to get semi-participation of the BM so that I knew where/when they were headed.
- Send an envelope w/ some $ for his BM to give him once he gets to the casino, so that he has a little extra to play with.
- Arrange for some sort of funny/embarassing message to show up on the big screen at the hockey game (not sure if this costs $, and if so, how much). Would love to make it super over the top and goopy so that his friends rag on him for it.
Any other thoughts (small or large)? Thanks bees!!