(Closed) help me decide on how to walk down aisle!?

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: who should walk me?
    dad : (1 votes)
    5 %
    grandpa : (4 votes)
    21 %
    mom : (8 votes)
    42 %
    by myself and FI meets me half way : (6 votes)
    32 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1146 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    If your mom raised you and you two are close, I would have her walk you. If you’re worried that your dad is going to have an issue, you could explain your decision, or tell him to deal with it. Hopefully he is mature enough to accept your decision, and still show up to your big day!

    My personal opinion is that it would look odd for you to walk partway by yourself, and then have your FI meet you, but if that’s what you want, go for it!

    I did go to a wedding once where the bride had both her bio dad and her step father (she was close to both) walk her down the aisle, so if you’re truly worried about hurting your dad’s feelings or him getting upset, you could have him and your mom escort you.

    Post # 4
    Hostess
    2557 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I’m in your same boat!  My parents divorced when I was 13 and my father and I grew apart.  Our relationship pretty much exists of birthday and christmas presents through my brother or cards in the mail.  My setpfather really has been a father to me, but I feel like if I have him walk me down the aisle, my father’s feelings would get hurt.  I also feel like if I have my mom walk me down the aisle, both my dad and step father’s feelings will be hurt.  But, I also feel like people will look at me strange if I walk myself down the aisle.  I’m glad I have almost a year to decide! 🙁

    I voted that you should walk yourself.

    Post # 5
    Member
    842 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @futuremrsbc:  Do you think that your dad and mom/grandpa could both walk you down the aisle? It’s something that lots of people do with stepfathers, mothers, grandparents etc and I think it’s a great way to avoid hurt feelings. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    2973 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

    Have your mom walk you. If you’re dad wasn’t a big part of your life he will have to understand your decision, and I’m sure it will mean a lot to your mom to be able to walk you down.

    Post # 7
    Member
    41 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I’m in the same boat.  My parents divorced when I was young.  Mom married current stepdad when I was 14.  For a while, I thought I would ask stepdad to walk me down the aise.  My mom and stepdad don’t like my FI, and it upsets me to think they might not attend my wedding.  I’ve thought about asking my grandfather, and I’ve even thought about walking by myself.  I’m leaning more towards walking by myself.  If Mom and stepdad change their thinking about Mr. M, I might ask stepdad to walk me. If not, I’ll most likely go solo.

    Post # 8
    Member
    3593 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Maybe you could have your dad walk you in and your mom join in halfway?  Or have them both walk you in.  My friend had both her mom and dad walk her in and it was very sweet! 

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