(Closed) Help me decide the best way to keep my maiden name/add FI's name

posted 4 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: How should I change my name officially? (Note: example names are fictional!)
    Have 2 last names: "Lilli Ann Wilbury Mansfield" aka "Ms. Wilbury Mansfield" : (5 votes)
    36 %
    Hyphenate: "Lilli Ann Wilbury-Mansfield" aka "Ms. Wilbury-Mansfield" : (2 votes)
    14 %
    Make maiden middle: "Lilli Wilbury Mansfield" aka "Ms. Mansfield" : (6 votes)
    43 %
    Combine first/middle name: "Lilliann Wilbury Mansfield" aka "Ms. Mansfield" : (1 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2855 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    @MsBlackberry:  What about having 2 middle names? That’s what I plan on doing!

    ex: First, Middle, Middle (maiden), Last

    Post # 5
    Member
    9559 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think that for publishing purposes I would definately keep your maiden name in your last name since some citations only use last names. And the only real way to do that and include his name is to hypenate. But there’s nothing that says that you couldn’t keep your maiden professionally and go by his or a combo socially. As far as middle names go, most people use their middle names so infrequently that nobody would even notice if they changed it. It sounds like you use the “ann” middle name frequently, but I would bet that if you moved your maiden to a middle it would hardly ever get used. So if you really want to keep your maiden, I wouldn’t use it as a middle, just because most middle’s simply don’t get used.

     

    Post # 6
    Member
    1009 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    If you really want your maiden name to be part of your last name, I think you need to hyphenate.  Two last names might work, but yes, then it could be confusing as to which one is actually the last name.  Its ok if you and your DH have different names.  I kept my name, so we have totally different names, and everything is just A-Ok.  I thought of adding my middle name to my first name, but since I didn’t change my name, it wasn’t necessary.  But I write out my full name (first middle last).

    Post # 7
    Member
    2855 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    @MsBlackberry:  I think @JenGirl:  is right–the best way to guarantee both names would be to hyphenate (although that can be a pain for paperwork). You can be hyphenated but just have people refer to you as one or the other. My best friend has a hyphenated last name. I’ve known her since we were 12, and I don’t think I realized she had 2 names until I saw her license when we were like 21!

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