- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
Okay, bees, so my maiden name and FI’s last name are both unique and I want BOTH of them as part of my name. FI does not want to change his name, as my maiden name is long (3 syllables, 9 letters) and not part of his identity (and it would be a pain in the butt to change his, since I don’t think my state allows that without extra paperwork money for men). I want to keep my maiden name both for sentimental reasons, and because I have some (minor, as of yet) work published under that name.
1. At first, i just wanted to tack his name on the end and have 2 LAST NAMES. I heard that is confusing on paperwork, and you have to constantly tell people which name to use.
2. Then, I thought I could hyphenate, and 1 LOOOONG LAST NAME, but, well… then it would be annoyingly long, and technically people would want to address me as a different name that FI which would also be confusing.
3. The next option was to make my MAIDEN NAME AS NEW MIDDLE NAME, and drop my own middle name. Not really an option, because my middle name is very special to me, as I was born on a relative’s b-day and have her first name as my middle name.
4. So, then I had an idea. My birth FIRST NAME AND MIDDLE NAME COMBINED make up a legitimate name. What if I made that my new first name, went by my current first name, AND MY MAIDEN NAME AS MY MIDDLE NAME.
Number 4 seemed like the best solution for a long time; however, I don’t think I can just write in a new first name and middle name for my name change in my state… I think I will still have to complete extra paperwork and fees and possibly petition for a name change. Ugh.
Then, I was thinking…. well, if I am making my middle name my maiden name…. will that still work, professionally? Won’t have to write out my middle name on everything just so that people can see that I am the same person, just with a new last name?
So, perhaps I should just go back to option 1, and add his name on the end, or option 2, and hypenate. That way my last name is officially still part of my last name.
HELP ME, I AM SOOOO INDECISIVE ABOUT THIS! Oh, and I get married in just 3 days!!!!