Help me decide what to do about these 2 guests (and their potential guests)

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it necessary to give +1s to these guests?
    Yes, to both : (9 votes)
    15 %
    No, neither : (51 votes)
    82 %
    Give to Scenario 1 but not 2 : (1 votes)
    2 %
    Give to Scenario 2 but not 1 : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @princess_r:  

     

    first off, what if everyone says yes or 16 people don’t say no.

     

    for my wedding, single people are not invited with +1. period, no exceptions.

    one of our groomsman will be in a relationship for 6 months when the wedding comes around.  at the time of STDs he was single or only 1 date with this girl.  she is added to the guest list as a named guest.

     

     

     

    Post # 4
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    4511 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    you dont have room. that would be my biggest concern. perhaps if more people decline than you expect, you might call them up the week before and say, “btw I have a bit more space than I was thinkin, let me know ifyou would like to bring a guest.”

    Post # 6
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    8720 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I agree with a PP about you not having room. I dont think EVERYONE will rsvp ‘yes,’ but you never know.

    You will get a range of answers on this question since it is posed in some form at least once a week. For my wedding everyone is getting a +1 but we have the space.

    Post # 7
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    2546 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    if you know those 15 are not attending, i would give them plus ones. it is only two people.

    Post # 8
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    3442 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    No, to both. You don’t have the room, you won’t know their +1’s most likely if they brought someone, and they won’t be lonely all night even if they don’t bring a guest.

    Post # 9
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    592 posts
    Busy bee

    I think for your paticular cases of the work friend and college friend that are not married or dating, it is ok to just invite them without a +1.  I don’t think that I would be offended if it were me.

    Post # 10
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    484 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @princess_r:  I had “courtesy” guests which I KNEW were going to say no.. which said yes. We have 165 people on our list with a max capacaty of 150. Now I am HOPING TO THE LORD some other people who were also “definate nos” say no or we’re in trouble. Please be careful about inviting over your max. I would send people invites and cap it at 110 and then once no’s come in send out others. Just in case

    Post # 11
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    353 posts
    Helper bee

    I was never offended to not have a plus one when I was single. 

     

    Post # 13
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    920 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2018

    @princess_r:

    You are counting chickens that haven’t hatched.  You never know who might decide to go even with health issues or long distance.

    Post # 14
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    419 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    this morning, a girl i used to work with who i’m friends with on facebook put this as her status:

    “i need a date to a wedding on august 3rd, any takers?”

    yes, space is obviously an issue, but also do you really want complete strangers at your wedding?  that was our mindset when we were giving- or not giving, rather- plus ones to our single guests.

    Post # 15
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    286 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @dovelovesfalcon:  This right here is the reason that single guests are not getting +1’s at my wedding. 

    Post # 16
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    9652 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    If neither are seriously dating anyone then I wouldn’t

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