Post # 1
I have two scenarios that I’m struggling with, as far as giving my guests +1s. Of course, I want everyone to be comfortable and have a good time, but I’m wondering if it is absolutely necessary that I give each of these guests a +1. I have almost no space to work with (capacity is 110, my guest list is currently 126).
Scenario 1: I work in an office with 10 coworkers who all get along well and hang out occasionally outside of work. All are married but one, who is not dating anyone. Should I give him a +1? He will know at least 20 people at my wedding so shouldn’t feel lonely or singled out. I’m not worried about everyone pairing off and leaving him alone, either; we recently went to another coworker’s wedding which he attended single and was fine.
Scenario 2: A friend from university who I also know is definitely not dating anyone. She will also know several other university friends there.
I don’t want to be rude or make anyone uncomfortable, just trying to do the best I can with the numbers I have.
Post # 3
first off, what if everyone says yes or 16 people don’t say no.
for my wedding, single people are not invited with +1. period, no exceptions.
one of our groomsman will be in a relationship for 6 months when the wedding comes around. at the time of STDs he was single or only 1 date with this girl. she is added to the guest list as a named guest.
Post # 4
you dont have room. that would be my biggest concern. perhaps if more people decline than you expect, you might call them up the week before and say, “btw I have a bit more space than I was thinkin, let me know ifyou would like to bring a guest.”
Post # 5
I should have mentioned, 15 of the invites are ‘courtesy’ invites to relatives very far away. It is obvious from their health issues and other circumstances that there is no way they’d ever be able to attend.
Post # 6
I agree with a PP about you not having room. I dont think EVERYONE will rsvp ‘yes,’ but you never know.
You will get a range of answers on this question since it is posed in some form at least once a week. For my wedding everyone is getting a +1 but we have the space.
Post # 7
if you know those 15 are not attending, i would give them plus ones. it is only two people.
Post # 8
No, to both. You don’t have the room, you won’t know their +1’s most likely if they brought someone, and they won’t be lonely all night even if they don’t bring a guest.
Post # 9
I think for your paticular cases of the work friend and college friend that are not married or dating, it is ok to just invite them without a +1. I don’t think that I would be offended if it were me.
Post # 10
@princess_r: I had “courtesy” guests which I KNEW were going to say no.. which said yes. We have 165 people on our list with a max capacaty of 150. Now I am HOPING TO THE LORD some other people who were also “definate nos” say no or we’re in trouble. Please be careful about inviting over your max. I would send people invites and cap it at 110 and then once no’s come in send out others. Just in case
Post # 11
I was never offended to not have a plus one when I was single.
Post # 12
@princess_r: do any of these people have to travel?
Post # 13
You are counting chickens that haven’t hatched. You never know who might decide to go even with health issues or long distance.
Post # 14
this morning, a girl i used to work with who i’m friends with on facebook put this as her status:
“i need a date to a wedding on august 3rd, any takers?”
yes, space is obviously an issue, but also do you really want complete strangers at your wedding? that was our mindset when we were giving- or not giving, rather- plus ones to our single guests.
Post # 15
@dovelovesfalcon: This right here is the reason that single guests are not getting +1’s at my wedding.
Post # 16
If neither are seriously dating anyone then I wouldn’t