- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
I recently selected my Bridesmaid or Best Man Diva dresses, called and sent a text with information to them. Tell me if I am wrong and help me explain this to her & them.
I live in Atlanta, my divas live in (3)Boston, (1)SC.(1) LA and (2)Atlanta. When I originally asked them to be part of my day I did ask a couple of questions. What is your budget for dress and will this be huge expense for you to attend. They will need to pay for dress, shoes, hotel, transportation, airfare and makeup if they choose to.
I have been very mindful, respectful and had a whole lot of consideration just because everyone do not have it like that. Shoot I don’t have it like that, I tried to place myself in there shoes so I can be very compassionate and not become B. Last October w/a deadline in December I sent an email to them and did ask if they can at least try on some dresses so that I can see which silouette will look good on them. I am ok with mismatch dresses but same fabric and color. Since they did not comply and I speak with these ladies often, I try not to talk about the wedding all the time. I had to send out another email with another firm deadline, I found a dress at DB I thought I would like but it does not look good on them (the ones who tried it on). I was like shoot now I have to find another dress and I wish they would help me too.
My MOH/Diva-ATL and I went to Ivory Bridal and formal and found something, it is not my original dress or idea I wanted but I thought we can get some jazzy jewlry to make it pop. I was excited, I finally got a bridal moment. With all this being said, I knew my Maid/Matron of Honor in Boston was going to DB yesterday but not exactly sure what time. I called her to let her know, she did not pick up (on purpose mind you). I tried to call her numerous times but she is only texting me.
How should I handle this? Each store I go to, they inform me that if you want your dresses to be same dye lot they have to be ordered together. I have divas out of state 6 out of 7 is ok with ordering the dress from the store here in Atlanta. My Maid/Matron of Honor -Boston feels she do not need to order from the same store. She wants the name of the dress and style and order when she feels. I told her I want all dresses ordered at same time. She has been in many wedding I have been in none but my aunts and I was a stand in a thousand years ago. Help me explain to the ladies we need to order at the same time, store and if they do not do there deposits when I asked order will not be placed. Will it be wrong who ever do not order by Feb 15 they can just be a guest at the wedding. She will not answer my calls now or text
If you need more information, please let me know. My nerves are being worked