- 6 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
My FI is a teacher. He gets much more time off than me and as it turns out, many of our mutual friends are not professionals, or have some sort of job/lifestyle that allows them many days off at once, as well.
They decided to take my FI on a 5-day Bachelor Party to Vegas… over Christmas Break. So, he’d leave Christmas Day or the day after, and come back the day before new Year’s Eve, or somewhere around there.
The only way I could come up with enough vacation days for our Honeymoon was to hoard my 2012 days and roll most of them into 2013. This meant that I had virtually no “free” vacation days.
I’d love to be able to take an overnight trip, or even a 3-day trip for my Bachelorette, but I can’t swing it, nor do I think my girls can, because of work. Now, this has been a real source of strain for us and it comes up almost every day. My brother has been making jokes about it and bringing it up quite often, because he’s part of the planning process. Overall, I feel frustrated, jealous, uncomfortable, annoyed, etc. I do want him to have a good party, but I just feel like this is excessive. I feel like 5 days is an awful long time for me to be worried about his safety and what he’s up to, etc.
I started trying to plan something the weekend after Christmas, so I’d also be out of the house and not just sitting around waiting for him to come home. But this would mean I’d be away for New Year’s Eve or New Year’s Day, as this is the only long weekend I could come up with using my limited time off. He has a problem with this and is upset that I wouldn’t want to spend New Year’s Eve with him.
What do I do? How do I stop this craziness and arguing and fighting? I tried to suggest a compromise, which is that he’d shorten his trip, but he says it’s already booked. This also annoys me.
I don’t want this to be a huge problem, but so far it’s turned into one. How do I let go of this? I don’t want it to bother me so much and I can’t really see what’s fair here.