(Closed) Help me figure out a potentially awkward situation, please.

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How do I make sure some people don't feel left out or awkward?
    Only OOT guests, family, and bridal party are invited to rehearsal meals. The others will understand : (15 votes)
    52 %
    Find a way to invite your local friends to the rehearsal lunch, even though you're not super close : (2 votes)
    7 %
    Invite only OOT GIRLfriends to post-rehearsal nails/cocktails events, their SOs are on their own : (4 votes)
    14 %
    Invite the OOT girls WITH their SOs even though the evening events are a bit on the "girly" side : (8 votes)
    28 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    10508 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I wouldn’t invite the OOT friends to the lunch.  I’m used to the rehearsals being for the bridal party, parents, grandparents, and maybe almost-immediate family (aunts, uncles, cousins).

    For the other stuff, invite who you want.  Some people will likely be working or travelling.

    Post # 4
    Member
    3721 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    You are thinking too much of this. First of all, the locals won’t be offended about the RD, they have zero expectation of an invitation. As far as the girls night, tell the SOs of the out of towners a couple cool places they might enjoy. They will be very happy to get out of nails and cocktails. Trust me. As far as the non-sorority OOT friends, say “I am going to get my nails done with my old soriority sisters at 3 at Nail Heaven. We would love for you to join us, but if you can’t, we look forward to seeing you at X Bar”. Have a blast!:-)

     

     

     

    Post # 5
    Member
    2669 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

    Do the SOs of the OOT girls know each other? If so, they’ll be fine without their girlfriends- they’ll probably go drink beer and swap manly stories. If they don’t know each other, I think it would be better to invite them along for the evening, because if I traveled with my fiance and then was promptly left alone, I wouldn’t be too happy.

    Post # 6
    Member
    7858 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @LilDrAnya:  rehearsal dinner is for bridal party and family.  then some people extend it to OOT guests.  since those girls are local, they should not be invited (and should understand) unless the is a special reason you would like to invite them to attend.  the guest list is entirely up to you

    but after the rehearsal lunch, why don’t you tell all the girls to meet at X bar/coffeehouse/etc for a drink or something so you can all catch up?

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