Post # 1
Hi everyone! I am desperately needing some help. I am my sisters minion for the next 3 months. I’m taking the lead on helping her with her wedding. I am sooo happy my little sister is getting married on October 3d of this year in the washington DC area.
Here’s my problem, we have a mix of people invited to this wedding, invitations were sent with details about an “ADULT RECEPTION”, yet still, we have had over 50% of responses with KIDS names on them!!!!!!!!!!
I even created an invite for the “hispanic” speakers, culturaly, at least in my group of hispanic community, they bring everyone and their momma to events like this, I mean really, the cousin, the friend, etc……..
Which is why I took a lot of time in revamping a spanish version that was EXTREMELY clear about kids at the reception. I’m still getting KIDDIE names on the repsonses.
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have no idea how to tell them, dont bring your kid!!!!!
Post # 3
Call the guests. Maybe they thought you made a mistake. Say to them, “hi! we received your rsvp for my sister’s wedding in October. However, I see that you RSVP’ed for your children, also, and I wanted to call and clarify that it’s an adults-only reception”
They’ll probably complain a little. And then you just say, “I’m sorry, this is the bride and groom’s decision and children are not invited to attend” If there’s a reason (ie the wedding is by a lake, it’s very late, it’s in a casino, etc etc that would make children attending ‘inappropriate’, feel free to state so here). If not, you’ll get some backlash, and you can always say, “oh, i’m just the messenger, but yes, children are not allowed for any of the guests and no exceptions will be made”. They can be mad at you all they want, but it’s not your wedding, so they’ll likely not get too extreme or beg or anything. That is, if your sister and her husband aren’t up to the task of calling back all 50%.
“Room constraints” is a good one. The wedding hall simply won’t fit 200 adults plus 200 kids, right?
Post # 4
I agree with the above post. I think you should call the guests and say you’re really glad they’ll be able to make it but clarify that’s it an “adults only” reception. I also think people will probably complain a little (that’s just natural), but it’s better to make it clear beforehand rather than kids showing up on the wedding day and you having to deal with it then and there. Just explain to them that because of money, location, etc., you had to limit it to “adults only.”