Hi ladies! So as the title of this post indicates...I can't make a decision. I'm having an early Oct. wedding in Vermont in a barn, at basically the peak of the foliage season. I just can't pick a color palette though and stick with it. My florist probably wants to kill me. I feel so conflicted (and lame because I'm conflicted about something so dumb). The problem is that even though I'm getting married in the fall I'm not actually a fan of fall colors. I am more into spring colors. My mother is throwing a fit though and thinks that it's totally inappropriate to not match the setting of the wedding. My bridesmaids are wearing meadow green Ann Taylor dresses. I thought it would be really beautiful if we did light colors of greens, yellows, creams and whites...maybe a small hint of blush pink here and there. My mother doesn't like this though at all and now I'm getting paranoid that people are going to think it looks bad/inappropriate when they see it. What do you guys think? Should I stick with the fall colors? I really need some input!
On top of that my mother keeps buying all this STUFF and I feel like my wedding is going to look like it has 8 different themes. It is stressing me out because it's confusing the picture I had in my mind...and of course when I tell my mother I don't like something she gets REALLY upset. Gahh. Why can't anything ever be easy (meaning without drama)?
I'm so jealous -- that's going to be a gorgeous wedding! I would love a fall wedding (but I come from a family of teachers, so no go).
I know I should probably say that it's your day, do whacha wanna do. But, I think with the barn setting in the fall, you really should stick with fall colors. It will help to emphasize the natural beauty of the setting. You may be able to stick closely to the colors you've selected -- maybe even just with substituting a deep burgandy color for the pink? and maybe go with deeper shades of yellow and cream-- You just can't argue with foliage season, though. Work that fall color palette!
First of all, take a deep breath and ohhmmm....exhale.
Secondly, you are NOT lame because you are conflicted about deciding your color palette. This is a decision that affects the rest of your wedding vision. Many brides (including me) have agonized over their color palette!
Thirdly, I personally think your idea of greens, yellows, creams and whites sounds lovely. That is a classic combination that really can be tailored to any season. Just because you are getting married smack dab in the middle of autumn doesnt mean you are relegated to using red, oranges, yellows and browns. And honestly, as involved as you are with your color palette, I am sure not one guest at your wedding is going to say, "Wow...this wedding certainly was pretty to look at but it is a shame it didn't match the season." A wedding isn't about a color palette. It about what makes you and your soon-to-be husband happy. NOBODY will think it looks bad or inappropriate. Just because your mother doesn't like it means YOU shouldn't like the colors you want.
I too have a difficult...umm...eccentric mother who has tender feelings too. The best way I handle her is to butter her up and then re-direct the focus. "You know mom, I really appreciate you buying this and I see where you are coming from. I'd like to incorporate this into the reception somehow but I think I'd like to go with another color. Do you think we can go look for these together?"
I will say that my mom DOESN'T like my fuchsia/light pink/spring green palette all that much but respects that I do. I suggest you remain strong when you do finally make a decision and stick with it. Flatter and then redirect. That is the best way to deal with a meddling but well-meaning mother. =)
PS: Make sure your mom keeps the receipts for all the stuff she keeps buying so you can take it all back. Together.
I love that color scheme and think that the greens will look great in a barn setting! Stick to what YOU like and don't worry about what anyone else says. On your wedding day your mother will not even notice that the flowers are not her preferred color as she will be in awe of how beautiful everything looks. Plus you will be the one who has the wedding album. your opinion is the only one that counts (well i guess your FI's too) :) Good luck!
I agree w/ the previous 3 posters. Go for your palette: it sounds lovely. And you must, somehow, tell your mom to stop buying stuff that won't work! It sounds like that'll be the hardest part. I say stick to your guns and go with the pale green, cream, yellow.
If you do use blush pink, use it very sparingly. If you're outdoors for any part of the day, you will have oranges and burgundies in the background.
you can definitely use those colors. I would say, since you already have the green dresses, keep the flowers to whites, yellows, and some pale rust/orange colors rather than the pink....You can use varying shades of yellows/golds with everything else. Look at the colors of the fall foliage. They turn yellow first! I do think the pink will throw everything off though. But there is some flower that I always see in wedding mags, that comes in every color. a pale orange/rust almost peach could be gorgeous! I just cant remember what it is!
Thank you all for your advice!!! It was really helpful. I saw my mom this weekend and stuck to my guns. We are going with creams, greens, light yellows, and for a "pop" (I'm hoping) Icelandic poppies in a peachy-orange color. I also told her about my issue with all the stuff she's buying and even though she was really defensive, I think she knows and understands now that I won't be using all of that stuff. Hopefully she kept the receipts!
I am also getting married in October and I struggled with my color palette at the beginning too. However, I decided it was more important to go with the colors I like (which happen to be spring colors) than to choose fall colors. Of course I'm in Southern California where we don't really have seasons and weather changes so it's not as big of a deal, but still...you should go with what you like. In the pictures you won't know what season it is, and the pictures are all you'll be left with in the end anyway. The green and white palette jeeyol suggested is a beautiful compromise and it's the way I'm going as well. Bright green has a spring feel without totally contradicting the colors of fall. Here's my centerpiece inspiration if you need any more ideas. Good luck!
Hi ladies! So as the title of this post indicates...I can't make a decision. I'm having an early Oct. wedding in Vermont in a barn, at basically the peak of the foliage season. I just can't pick a color palette though and stick with it. My florist probably wants to kill me. I feel so conflicted (and lame because I'm conflicted about something so dumb). The problem is that even though I'm getting married in the fall I'm not actually a fan of fall colors. I am more into spring colors. My mother is throwing a fit though and thinks that it's totally inappropriate to not match the setting of the wedding. My bridesmaids are wearing meadow green Ann Taylor dresses. I thought it would be really beautiful if we did light colors of greens, yellows, creams and whites...maybe a small hint of blush pink here and there. My mother doesn't like this though at all and now I'm getting paranoid that people are going to think it looks bad/inappropriate when they see it. What do you guys think? Should I stick with the fall colors? I really need some input!
On top of that my mother keeps buying all this STUFF and I feel like my wedding is going to look like it has 8 different themes. It is stressing me out because it's confusing the picture I had in my mind...and of course when I tell my mother I don't like something she gets REALLY upset. Gahh. Why can't anything ever be easy (meaning without drama)?
posted by 1008Bride 15 posts 3 months agoI'm so jealous -- that's going to be a gorgeous wedding! I would love a fall wedding (but I come from a family of teachers, so no go).
I know I should probably say that it's your day, do whacha wanna do. But, I think with the barn setting in the fall, you really should stick with fall colors. It will help to emphasize the natural beauty of the setting. You may be able to stick closely to the colors you've selected -- maybe even just with substituting a deep burgandy color for the pink? and maybe go with deeper shades of yellow and cream-- You just can't argue with foliage season, though. Work that fall color palette!
posted by bluegreenjean 118 posts 3 months agoFirst of all, take a deep breath and ohhmmm....exhale.
Secondly, you are NOT lame because you are conflicted about deciding your color palette. This is a decision that affects the rest of your wedding vision. Many brides (including me) have agonized over their color palette!
Thirdly, I personally think your idea of greens, yellows, creams and whites sounds lovely. That is a classic combination that really can be tailored to any season. Just because you are getting married smack dab in the middle of autumn doesnt mean you are relegated to using red, oranges, yellows and browns. And honestly, as involved as you are with your color palette, I am sure not one guest at your wedding is going to say, "Wow...this wedding certainly was pretty to look at but it is a shame it didn't match the season." A wedding isn't about a color palette. It about what makes you and your soon-to-be husband happy. NOBODY will think it looks bad or inappropriate. Just because your mother doesn't like it means YOU shouldn't like the colors you want.
I too have a difficult...umm...eccentric mother who has tender feelings too. The best way I handle her is to butter her up and then re-direct the focus. "You know mom, I really appreciate you buying this and I see where you are coming from. I'd like to incorporate this into the reception somehow but I think I'd like to go with another color. Do you think we can go look for these together?"
I will say that my mom DOESN'T like my fuchsia/light pink/spring green palette all that much but respects that I do. I suggest you remain strong when you do finally make a decision and stick with it. Flatter and then redirect. That is the best way to deal with a meddling but well-meaning mother. =)
PS: Make sure your mom keeps the receipts for all the stuff she keeps buying so you can take it all back. Together.
posted by Shelbystar 43 posts 3 months agoI love that color scheme and think that the greens will look great in a barn setting! Stick to what YOU like and don't worry about what anyone else says. On your wedding day your mother will not even notice that the flowers are not her preferred color as she will be in awe of how beautiful everything looks. Plus you will be the one who has the wedding album. your opinion is the only one that counts (well i guess your FI's too) :) Good luck!
posted by FutureMrs 153 posts 3 months agoI would suggest doing your greens, yellows, creams and whites - just leave the pink out. Sounds beautiful!
posted by enmoore66 217 posts 3 months agoI agree w/ the previous 3 posters. Go for your palette: it sounds lovely. And you must, somehow, tell your mom to stop buying stuff that won't work! It sounds like that'll be the hardest part. I say stick to your guns and go with the pale green, cream, yellow.
If you do use blush pink, use it very sparingly. If you're outdoors for any part of the day, you will have oranges and burgundies in the background.
posted by Krista 102 posts 3 months agoyou can definitely use those colors. I would say, since you already have the green dresses, keep the flowers to whites, yellows, and some pale rust/orange colors rather than the pink....You can use varying shades of yellows/golds with everything else. Look at the colors of the fall foliage. They turn yellow first! I do think the pink will throw everything off though. But there is some flower that I always see in wedding mags, that comes in every color. a pale orange/rust almost peach could be gorgeous! I just cant remember what it is!
posted by dreambml 429 posts 3 months agoThank you all for your advice!!! It was really helpful. I saw my mom this weekend and stuck to my guns. We are going with creams, greens, light yellows, and for a "pop" (I'm hoping) Icelandic poppies in a peachy-orange color. I also told her about my issue with all the stuff she's buying and even though she was really defensive, I think she knows and understands now that I won't be using all of that stuff. Hopefully she kept the receipts!
I knew I could count on you guys!
posted by 1008Bride 15 posts 3 months agoSaw this and thought of your post.
http://tastefullyentertaining.blogspot.com/2008/08/green-leaves-fall-wedding.html
posted by jeeyol 88 posts 3 months agoI absolutely love that board!! Truly great inspiration. I'll bring that to my florist appointment. Thank you jeeyol!
posted by 1008Bride 15 posts 3 months agoGlad I could help.
Now if you could only come over and address all my invitations for me, haha
posted by jeeyol 88 posts 3 months agoI am also getting married in October and I struggled with my color palette at the beginning too. However, I decided it was more important to go with the colors I like (which happen to be spring colors) than to choose fall colors. Of course I'm in Southern California where we don't really have seasons and weather changes so it's not as big of a deal, but still...you should go with what you like. In the pictures you won't know what season it is, and the pictures are all you'll be left with in the end anyway. The green and white palette jeeyol suggested is a beautiful compromise and it's the way I'm going as well. Bright green has a spring feel without totally contradicting the colors of fall. Here's my centerpiece inspiration if you need any more ideas. Good luck!
posted by OctBride08 5 posts 3 months ago