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    Hey! 

    I am new!  I have been dating my boyfriend for 19 months now.  We met and 2 months later moved in together.  We are so happy together and knew just after months of dating we were going to end up together.  We have had all the talks about marriage and even when we want kids.  My boyfriend is a professional athlete and has a BIG competition coming up.  I think he wants to win it and then ask me.  I just started having dreams of getting engaged last week.  But I can't see the ring!  I already went ring shopping with his mom and my mom and they know exactly what I want. I am to the point where all my friends/ family and co-workers keep looking at my finger for a ring.  I am starting to get anxious!  What can I do to keep calm and not think about it? I am the type of girl that has wanted to get married and have kids since high school.  I can't wait and am so so so excited!  I already know alot of things I want for my wedding.  Any suggestions?  I will be SOOOO excited when I finally get engaged!  I have been going to all my friends weddings and being the bridesmaid!  Help me keep my cool!  Undecided

     

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    stephinPA    October 29, 2010   Reading, PA

    Wow!  You are EXCITED!  And you should be.  Try and stay calm about it.  I thought my fiance was going to propose on two different occasions and he didn't and I was so NOT pleased.  But I didn't tell him...he knew something was wrong.

    It was after that second time that I told myself to just push it away from my mind.  That's what I did and our next trip away he proposed. 

    There is such a thing to be said for hope but try to NOT get disappointed if he might not propose when you think he might.  It WILL happen...but who knows when...only he knows.

     

     
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    crebre80    November 20, 2010   Baton Rouge, LA

    What an exciting time!! I agree with stephinPA, just relax and don't think about it or when you do just come on here and vent to us (trust me I know ALL about venting) lol...or pick up a new hobby (I do that one as well lmbo). just be excited for him at his new sporting event and cheer for him with all of your hearts!!btw M and I moved in together after we'd been dating 5 months and tons of people thought it was too soon but it was perfect for us!!

     
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    mlkeysock    September 1, 2007   near Philadelphia, PA

    It will definitely happen - you know that, so try to push it from your mind like stephinPA said! The minute I stopped thinking about the proposal is the minute he proposed! Just focus on other things that interest you. Think about how amazingly lucky the two of you are to have found each other, and know that the proposal will come soon...just not yet. Keep your chin up, and don't forget to let us know when he does propose!

     
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    JsDragonfly    December 29, 2009  

    I think everyone has given you great advice here, so rather than sound redundant, I'll just say that I know exactly how you feel.  My fiancee' and I knew we were going to get engaged...both sides of the fam knew we were going to get engaged...friends knew we were going to get engaged...he knew what kind of ring I wanted...I even had my suspicions on when/where he would propose (and I was right)...but I can tell you that even though I was 99.9999999% sure we would be getting engaged, I was a nervous wreck until it happened!  Hang in there and let us know how it goes! :)

     
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    LovestheBear    July 2011  

    Welcome!  I agree (even though I have to remind myself often to follow my own advice)--just try to put it out of your mind.  It sounds like you are well on your way and it will happen soon!  Just don't expect it to happen at certain times (after competition, on vacation, etc) bc that's the quickest way to get disappointed, and I've been there.

     
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    KMSull    August 7, 2010   Lexington, KY (via Atlanta, GA)

    Keep calm and carry on! It will be so exciting when it happens, but don't forget that sometimes those boys have to get other things done before their head can be in the right place. Exhibit A: my boyfriend is trying to get into a PHD program while being a minister at a church! It's getting ready to be his SUPER busy season in both respects, so he's asked me to wait until its all over so he can do his proposal right!

     

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