Post # 1
When I ordered my dress (“Lorie” by Maggie Sottero) last September, I loved it. I thought it was gorgeous, just what I wanted. But I just went for my first fitting last weekend and I felt a bit disappointed. It didn’t help that another bride was there at the same time as me, and I thought her dress was exquisite.
I’m trying to figure out exactly what it is that’s changed in my mind. I have lost 25+ pounds since I put on the sample almost a year ago, so I figured if anything I’d like the dress MORE now. But maybe it’s the fact that the sample was too small for me (a size 10) and MY dress is now too big (size 18, and the woman said they have to take it in so much that by the time they’re done it’ll be closer to a 14) so it wasn’t fitting as well? Maybe I’m too pale (my hair wasn’t as blond last year), maybe I feel like I still need to lose a lot more weight to look good in it (& since I only have 9 weeks left, I’ll be lucky to lose 10-15 lbs). Or does it just look too plain at the top & I need a nice blingy necklace?
I need some words of encouragement and maybe some advice from my fellow bees! I posted pics below, let me know what you think! 🙂
Post # 2
And you can be honest, no worries about hurting my feelings. I know I am WAY too pale (thanks to my Irish & German skin!) and I know I am still overweight for my height so I won’t be offended if you agree lol.
Post # 3
I think it’s a really pretty dress and you look great! I think a sparkly sash would help make the dress perfect for you. It will also help to define your shrinking waist!
Post # 4
stargazer102706: FIRST FITTING IS THE WORST!
Next time will be so much better! It’s just not perfected yet, it’s a work-in-progress! I promise that’s all it is! You look amazing!
Post # 5
I think your dress is gorgeous! I’m a tiny little lady, and I can tell you that when stuff is too big, it absoultely can feel frumpy and plain. Once it’s all fitted properly you will be able to see the payoff of all your hard work (congrats, by the way, quite an achievement!).
If you really want to add more details there are a couple of options: an intricate veil/headpiece, you could add lacy straps or cap sleeves, you could add a belt. You also don’t have your hair done and aren’t wearing jewelry in the picture, I think once you have all that you’ll feel more “bridal”.
If I were you, I probably would add a necklace, something with some weight to it, but that’s short (ALMOST like a choker, but not quite). I’d also add a long veil trimmed in classic lace.
Post # 6
stargazer102706: i think the dress is lovely and once you are all made up with your bridal hair make up and accessories you will look fabulous!
Post # 7
i feel like no one talks about this… HOW TERRIBLE FIRST FITTINGS ARE! you fo in sooo excited and expect to love your dress even more, but it never fits and you leave feeling really worried. i totally went through this, and needed my dress taken in about 2 sizes as well, and i fell back in love at my second fitting! plus, when i got my veil and jewelry i fell even more in love!
that being said, i think this dress looks great on you. i can see that it’s too big around the bustline and probably waist, but i still think it’s the perfect dress for you! i think that a sparkly necklace would be great, MAYBE a belt, although i like the pattern of the lace so much that it may not be necessary.
Post # 8
stargazer102706: It’s a gorgeous dress! It’s just not made to fit you like a glove yet, but it will! I second the comment above about a belt or sash. Every dress I tried on – when I added a belt it was like night and day – it just made the dress pop. It also, conveniently, will draw the eye to the smalled part of your waist if you have it at your natural waist (totally what I’m doing!)
Don’t second guess yourself – you got this!
Post # 9
Thank you everyone for your supportive words! I actually do have a sash/belt, I tried to show the woman putting it around me in the first pic. I should’ve taken a few more pics with it on but I didn’t think of it.
I also had to order a new bra with some padding & push-up power b/c the one I had on at the fitting did NOTHING for my boobs lol. So hopefully that will help with the way it looks as well.
Post # 10
stargazer102706: I think you look fantastic in that dress. A sash/belt will really help as will taking in the bust a bit. First fittings can suck, but don’t let it get you down. You already look great in it!
Post # 11
stargazer102706: I bought Lorie too and it is beautiful. I ultimately ended up buying another dress that fit my vision more closely and am trying to sell my Lorie but I do think you will love it! I love the bling. With hair, makeup, jewelry, belt, it will all be exquisite!
Post # 12
stargazer102706: nooooo! Your dress is beautiful! No matter what dress you have on, if it fits poorly it will make you feel frumpy and gross. This isn’t my first kick at the can (so to speak) and I have had that problem both times! And the hideous green-ish lighting in the salons never helps. Next time you go, do some nice makeup, maybe get a spray tan, and by then the dress would have been taken in as it should be. You’ll have a much better idea of the actual look then. Just put your pics away and don’t even think about it until then. Once everything is good to go, you’ll love it!!!
Post # 13
I think you’re crazy! The dress is absolutely beautiful and you look great!
Post # 15
I think the dress is really pretty! I second the idea of (if you want “more”) adding some type or belt or sash? Something blingy or colored? I didn’t fall in love with my dress until the belt was added.
Plus, fit is CRUCIAL! I am hoping you re-fall in love after it gets altered.
Congrats on losing 25 lbs by the way, that’s awesome!