(Closed) HELP ME!! Need major advice

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’d call her.  Maybe it’s an honest attempt to reach out.  It’s so hard to say tho, with the history.  It doesn’t have to be long, or even mean you have to invite her over, but you should at least reach back, imho.  Some people aren’t as strong as others and your DH had you to help him get away from that woman.

Post # 4
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8354 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Sorry you are having to go through this. I think you should send a thank you card and call her. I think she is extending an olive branch to you and maybe you could all slowly but surely start your relationships over. I would suggest leaving the past in the past and just start over, but ultimately it is up to you and your FI as to what you are going to do.

Post # 6
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5658 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I would send them a thank you card, but I would be wary. Sometimes people like that send gifts just to spite you and hurt you more. I had a falling out with my cousin and my aunt years ago. One Christmas they randomly sent me a gift. I called my cousin to thank them thinking maybe they wanted to make up but they used the opportunity to yell at me and told me that THEY sent a gift and so I am the horrible person. If they ever send a gift again, I’m just going to ignore it. That said, I think you should at least respond. At the very least it is polite. If they attack you, take the high road and just ignore them again.

Post # 7
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4824 posts
Honey bee

If you are feeling torn a nice card would be nice with a statement that you would like for her to call you two to catch up.  This will allow you to keep the door open, but puts the ball back in her court to reach out again to begin to heal the relationship since she is the one who broke/strained it.  

Post # 8
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183 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

send her a thank you, and that’s a wrap…I think you’ve done enough of pulling your own weight in this situation, and they should grow up and be the ones to grow u p. Once they grow up and see what they are missing they will be at your becking call…i cant believe “family” would act like hussies….haha! 

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