(Closed) Help me out Bees…

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think I would start the reception early, especially if you’re having OOT guests. Personally, I would rather have a reception end early than wander around in my dress clothes for a few hours.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would start it early also. I think from a guests perspective it is kinda a pain to have the break. They are also dressed for the wedding and plan your day around it so having hours in between makes things really awkward… and they don’t really know what to do with all that time! go eat – no because you will have food at reception, go around the town but all dressed up ;-/ etc

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think you should have it early if their are OOT guests or else come up with smoething to do. FOr the in town people it’s not as big of a deal…at least i wouldnt mind any way. I would be kind of confused as to what to do if I were from OOT especially if I was just i town for the day of the wedding you know…

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

i agree with starting your reception early.

let’s assume that your ceremony ends at 2:30pm, your guests will want to take photos with you which will easily take up 30min of your time (that’s what happend to me on my wedding day and i only had around 50 people attending the ceremony) because you’ll probably also want to thank them for coming and etc. that means you and your guests can leave the ceremony at 3pm, then you and your FI can go off to take photos of you two, but even if you start the reception at 5pm, the guests will still have 2 hours to kill.

it’d be nice if you could give them suggestions prior to your wedding date as to where they can go during the 2~3hrs gap, nearby scenery, mall..etc.

 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Are you sure your Catholic ceremony is only half hour?  Every wedding I have ever been to has been a Catholic one and they all lasted at least 1 hour.  Ours was 1 hr & 10 min.  Ours was at 2 p.m. also and when it ended at about 10 after…people hung around a while to congratulate us, and to take pics.  They all began to leave at around 3:30ish.  The reception hall was about 15-20 min away so we made sure the bar was open and the hors’douerves were available to those that arrived early as our reception didn’t actually start until 5 p.m.  I would strongly recommend that you start it as soon as possible because we had people that ended up going to a bar or home during the “gap” and ended up showing up until almost 6 p.m.!  They missed our grand entrance…our first dance…our toast, etc….  I really wish I would have put on the invites that the hall would be open as of 3:30 so that everybody could have gone straight there instead.  His Mom for example was one that showed up at 6:00 pm and was upset we didn’t tell her that we were doing the whole grand entrance and first dance thing right at 5:00 p.m.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I went to a wedding last weekend and there was 2 hours between the ceremony and the reception—bunch of old friends getting together + 2 hours of free time + booze + no food = drunk guests before the reception started.

Don’t make your guests wait. Start the reception earlier!

Post # 12
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Honey bee

Guests in general prefer no gap at all other than driving time to the reception. No one wants to entertain themselves in fancy clothes, or take a nap, shower, etc that most folks who encourage gaps believe that everyone does in between. If you do have a gap, be prepared for some people to skip the ceremony, which is rude but not much can be done to prevent if you have the gap. Plus, if folks are enjoying themselves, they won’t want to leave early. Many brides have mentioned that guests have had so much fun that they even pitched in for extra hours for the dj, as an example. Not that your guests should be required or encouraged to open their wallets. I don’t understand why if you start early, you have to end early.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@chicklet1587:  Start the reception at 5pm!!! You need time with your photographer to go off and take pictures.  You don’t want to rush that. 

 

 

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